Hate my job! :(

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Hate my job! :(
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 12:05pm
Hi Ladies-

I need some advice here. I’ve been with my company for four years, and even moved to a different state for it. The thing is, while the rest of my life is going great (love where I live, great boyfriend, etc), I really don’t like my job a good portion of the time. First off our company has been in sad shape for a long time (numerous layoffs, poor sales, etc). Then in our dept alone the management is terrible. I know for a fact that people are disappointed in our work, I have new equipment that has been broken from bugs half the time. I’m either bored or overwhelmed with work, etc. I’m sick of complaining and have talked it over with my other co-worker about policies to make things better but they keep getting ignored. I’ve even told my boss (we have a good relationship despite bad management) that I’m really down about things. I get set off really easy and been really emotional at work…but the second I get home I feel so calm.

Anyway, your thought would be to find another job, right? Well first, I have to wait till August because that’s when I moved here and if I quit early I have to pay back the relocation cost. And second, I’m not sure what I want to do for a career anymore. My type of job typically involves long and crazy hours, although the pay is good. Personally, I don’t care as much about the pay, but I really like having a 9-5 job, and that’s one thing the job I currently have allows. There are few instances of overtime or weekends. If I leave here and find another job in my field, I will more than likely be working really long hours and I hate that.

I just feel a bit lost and confused with what to do with my career. Can anyone recommend what I should do, or how I can find out what I want to do?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 12:22pm

Well, my thought is that if you are unhappy, something is off kilter that can be fixed. I would recommend that you check out your library for some Career Finder books like "What Color is Your Parachute?" or "Do What You Are"... those might have some exercises that would help you define what kind of occupation would make you the happiest. And if you MUST stick it out until August, then just make the best of it and realize what a blessing it is that you have a homelife that you love and are happy in. And take the time until August to research what you would like to do and make strides toward getting a job in that field. Hope I have helped!

"The greatness of a nation and its moral progress can be judged by the way its animals are treated." ~Gandhi

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 6:05pm
Hi there!!

I think we have all been there!! First, you need to set daily goals for your job. This will get you through the day with challenges that will motivate you. This will in turn get you through August. When setting your goals, think of your tasks as a game and as you finish you reward yourself. Rearrange your work environment to make it more appealing. Take on new tasks or create ways to accomplish the old. Somehow you need to spice up the work place. And...this does not mean have an affair at work. Surely, that would spice it up. Think of this time as the vacation before you journey onto what you really want to do. In the meantime start assessing yourself. Start making a list of your characteristics, personality traits, what you like, what you don't like etc... Make a list of your skills and abilities. Would you be willing to retrain or reeducate yourself to venture onto a new career. What is it that you really want? Are you looking for a job that pays, hourly preference, mind challenging, heart challenging or do you just want to do your part and just work. Become more astute with your surroundings. Look at what other people are doing. When you find something that you realistically like then research the hell out of it. Attempt to shadow someone in the industry and see what the job is really like. Remember you are a woman and no matter what you want to do, you can do it. This site is a great place to explore your talents, like, dislikes, extracurricular activities, desires. Make your lists here and maybe we can help throw some ideals at you. You have to give us more so we can work with you. Good luck Girl and remember we're here to pow wow. You're not alone. Mel

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 02-19-2004 - 12:14pm
Well first, I¡¦m in television. I currently work in a corporate setting doing this kind of work, hence the more 9-5 hours. In most post production facilities (I¡¦ve worked in that environment as well as television news) the hours are crazy and you pretty much have no control over your own life. When I had a job like that before I quit after six months and vowed that I would never give up control over my own life for a job. I like to know I can leave almost always at the same time and move on to other parts of my life that I enjoy. That¡¦s what makes it tough to find another job in my field. Whenever I start looking, I think about that and start to think, my job here isn¡¦t so bad. Basically I chicken out, thinking it could be worse somewhere else. I think I get really lazy when I also think about changing my career entirely and having to give up a great salary to go back to school, or have to work and go to school but have no time to do anything else. You know how it is when you¡¦re 33 and finally you are making money, have a great place to live¡Kbasically you get comfortable even though you are not really happy with what you are doing.

My saving grace of my current job is that usually no matter how crappy the day has gone, once 5 rolls around I can get out of here and go work out, go have dinner with a friend, etc. But the last two weeks have been challenging in that people have been walking in my office at 4 and asking me to have something done by the end of the day and it¡¦s nearly impossible to get it done without working late. I get very cranky when I have to miss a workout, especially when I¡¦m going on vacation in 2 weeks and I¡¦ll be wearing a bathing suit every day! ƒº hee

Oh, about having an office affair, I guess I¡¦m close since my boyfriend works with me. ƒº Then again, he doesn¡¦t always have the most sympathetic ear since he tends to be a workaholic and can¡¦t understand why I get pissed if I have to stay late and get something done. So thanks everyone for listening!