is he cheating by texting

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Registered: 11-14-2011
is he cheating by texting
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Mon, 11-14-2011 - 8:57am

Hi, I am so hurt right now and confused.

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Mon, 11-14-2011 - 5:05pm

Do you believe what that girl said? Because for me it is not that he messaged this girl but the fact that he said how you two broke up. For me that is a sign that he was hoping something will happend between him and that girl, why else would he lie? Just think about it this really hard because I know you love him and you want him to change but what he did was so disrespectful.

And also how will you trust him in the future? Do you really think he will stop or will he just get better at hiding it from you? Do you know why he is doing this?These are things that you need to think about and also speak to him about.

Problem is that we women usually do not get out of the relationships when we should, we tend to linger and hope that somehow miracle will happen and that he will change. But years go by and nothing changes and then we look back thinking why we did not get out on time. You might have invested a lot into this relationship but imagine if you stay

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Registered: 09-07-2000
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 9:47am
I agree with Sunny. The problem isn't that he texted her, it's what she said he told her and how he behaved afterwards. I think it's fairly typical of a person doing something shady to try and misplace blame (on you for looking at his phone) instead of owning up to what he did.

If this isn't the first time he's done this, I'd have a very hard time forgiving him and moving on. Especially if he doesn't see that what he did was wrong.
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Registered: 04-09-2008
Tue, 11-15-2011 - 7:07pm

I agree with the other posters. He didn't tell that girl he had a girlfriend who he loves dearly. What did he tell her? - something that would make the girl think he is single. Along with exchanging numbers, well... "duh!" It's pretty obvious what he was up to.

Sorry. I know you've already established a life with him but it appears to only be in superficial ways. You can reestablish yourself without him easily. This man is not worth keeping around for the long haul.

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Registered: 03-02-2012
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:19am
I would not be okay with this. Have you thought about counseling?