High School Love

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Registered: 11-13-2007
High School Love
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Mon, 09-26-2011 - 11:58pm

i need some advice please. I recently moved back to my hometown less than a year ago. A friend that i went to high school with just recently lost his wife after giving birth to their child. We liked each other in high school, but I moved away before we could start anything. Now, that I am back and i'm going through a divorce, he continues to say he stil wishes we would have gotten together in school;

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 10:52am
Welcome to the board! Taking the relationship slow sounds like it would be best for everyone. Since he lost his wife and you are going through a divorce.

My initial thought is it would probably be best to get through your divorce and give him some time. I don't know how long since everyone grieves differently, but I think that giving him (and you) a year to get things sorted out wouldn't hurt.

What does his SIL think about this? Have either of you gotten a chance to talk to her about it?

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Registered: 09-27-2011
Tue, 09-27-2011 - 10:37pm

Go for it!

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Registered: 03-02-2012
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:12am
The fact that the loss is recent is a huge red flag (imo). I would stay away for about a year. Give him some time to heal.
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Registered: 03-02-2012
Fri, 03-02-2012 - 11:14am
and I cant help but think of the movie 'Young Adult'