How do I shake this feeling?

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Registered: 04-21-2011
How do I shake this feeling?
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Sun, 05-15-2011 - 2:52am

I've been married for over 6 years and while I'm content in my marriage, I'm a little unhappy.

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Registered: 05-16-2011
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 7:45pm

Sounds like you have the 7 year itch a bit early. For the sake of your marriage, it's probably a good thing that your co worker resigned. If you want to get things back on the right track with your hubby you need to talk with him about how you are feeling! All of my married friends have gone through similar feelings - so it is completely normal, if that is any consolation?

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Fri, 05-20-2011 - 11:35am
How long have you and your husband been together? I agree with the PP that it sounds like the whole "7 year itch" thing. I've been married for 9 years now (together for 19), and our 7th year was really the most challenging of them all so far.

I, too, think it's probably for the best that your coworker is moving on to another job. Have you tried talking to your husband about how you feel? Men aren't mind readers, so it would probably be best for you to have a conversation with him. Maybe the two of you need to take a vacation together or a long weekend trip to reconnect.

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Registered: 10-12-2006
Tue, 05-24-2011 - 10:32am
i have the 7-year itch, too. people change all the time and grow apart from each other. and there will always be other guys that you'll be attracted to (and other women, in your husband's case). if you started feeling unhappy after the other guy showed up, then it's probably the typical itch (you want what you can't have) and it'll go away. if you were unhappy before the other guy, then you have to ask yourself if what you and your husband have is worth saving (i'm asking myself the same thing). maybe it's not; maybe you need something different than you did 6 years ago. that's totally okay.
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Registered: 05-15-2009
Fri, 06-24-2011 - 2:15am