Husband keeps venting to bitter divorce

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Registered: 08-28-2007
Husband keeps venting to bitter divorce
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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 10:56am

My husband and I have a unique living situation in that we're "dorm parents" at a boarding school.

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Registered: 04-07-2008
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 2:10pm

Greetings!

 

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Registered: 07-10-1999
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 8:19pm

I would talk to him about it and let him know how much it bothers you. Tell him that your problems are between you and him and that you really dislike being told what anybody else thinks of this situation. Ask that if he's not ready to give up talking to this guy, that he at least refrain from repeating what the guy said back to you.

If he continues doing it after you've made it clear how much it bothers you and that you need it to stop, you may want to consider finding a girlfriend who you can vent to about him. Then, whenever he tries it, you can counter with how your friend thought he was a jerk. See how he likes it.

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Registered: 04-20-2011
Wed, 04-20-2011 - 9:10pm

Don't fight so much with him! Men don't easily understand women unless they can relate the point being made to themselves. For example, "DH how would you feel if I told Sarah that blah, blah, blah, x, y, z happened" (something that would be humiliating about him that you could have said to your friend).