I have never had that happened to me...

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Registered: 06-23-2003
I have never had that happened to me...
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Thu, 10-16-2003 - 10:23am
First of all thank you for reading my story... THANK YOU :-)

Recently, about 3 months ago I have met a great guy...

At first we were just talking on the phone, a lot and after a while we started going out.

Within the last 3 weeks we went out a lot of times and had a great time, we became "close"...

We have agreed to dating and made it clear that "we are together".

One night we ended up making love...

Recently we have gone away for a weekend...

There we went out, were talking a lot, dancing, went back to a hotel room and went to sleep.

We did not made love that night...

I think because we go there about 4 AM and we were tired and...

I think he didn't want to do it because out of respect for me.

I am in a middle of divorce and I think he doesn't want to get "that" involved until my divorce is final...

My divorce should be final in a couple of months...

Everything was just fine until... now... since our weekend get away...I have not heard from him.

It has been 5 days and ... he has not called me. I have tried to call him but there is no answer.

In the past he has gone away to see his family and was gone for a few days...

But... I am sure his family has a phone and he could call me and let me know that he is out of town.

I have a very hard time believing he has broken up with me without a word because the way I know him...

It is just not like him!!!

But I could be just plainly stupid and blind to the fact that he just doesn't have enough "that something" in him...

To call me and say...

Baby, it over... for what ever reason...

The last time we saw each other he said:

"I had a great time, thank you, I will call you later and..." he kissed me.

Yes, that weekend we had some "strong" conversations about life, etc... but...

From the beginning we both knew how strong people we are and we stand by our believes very strong.

So ... I am lost in my own thoughts...

Could I be that stupid and fall for this guy?

Could he be such a liar? Such a two-face person?

You see... I have a very hard time to be open with people.

Trusting someone is VERY hard for me.

He knew that and made me feel like I can trust him and now...

Why? Why people are so mean!!!???

So blind to hurting someone...Why?

He knew about my divorce situation, he knew I have a hard time dealing with it...

Who wouldn't???

He told me I can trust him...

That he cares about me...

That he wants to be with me...

That he enjoys my company...

I do not believe something BAD has happened to him...

OK... that all...

Please tell me... is it possible for him to break up with me...

Without A WORD?

I have never had that happened to me...

And from what I know about him... this isn't like him at all...

Thank you....

Sincerely,

Isabella.

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Registered: 04-01-2003
Thu, 10-16-2003 - 2:15pm
Hi fellow thirty-something. You really just have to hold tight and wait to hear from him. I wouldnt be real thrilled either...dont get me wrong. But I think he WILL call eventually, and I would be interested as to hear what his excuse is. If it is something lame then you just know that you dodged a bullet here and something (someone) better and more special is waiting for you.