I need some new friends

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Registered: 01-14-2012
I need some new friends
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Tue, 05-22-2012 - 4:00pm

I'm 30 y/o, happily married, and childless.  And my husband and I seem to be the some of the few without children in our circle of friends.  My best friend is expecting her first this fall.  My younger sister, whom I am extremely close with, just had twins.  And my other very close friend is married to her job so I never see her anymore.  I don't really plan on having children and if I do, it won't be for a while.  Needless to say, I need some new people to hang out with.  I live in NYC; despite how crowded it is here, it seems pretty tough to make new friends.  I'd even go out on a limb and say it's easier to find someone to date (if I were single) vs finding girlfriends to hang out with.  Any ideas on how I can approach this?  There really should be a match.com out there for platonic friendships....haha

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 08-27-2012 - 5:57pm

I agree with what someone said about it being harder to make girlfriends as we get older.  I moved away from all my friends to another state to marry my husband and giving up seeing my friends every week crushed me up until the past 2 years or so (I moved 12 years ago).  I could hardly deal with not having friends nearby.  I value friendships greatly.  I had my husband, but wanted to have those "girls night out" or what Delilah calls, "Friday night girls".  Some Friday nights I would sit and listen to Delilah and cry!  Yes, that is pathatic,  I believe.  Being honest!

I know you mentioned you are in NY.  I am in Nashville, TN.  I am sure you are saying you want new friends where you are, but I am willing to be a new friend, if you would like :smileyhappy:  I love making new friends!!

 

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Re: I need some new friends
Mon, 08-27-2012 - 6:26pm

jenn66556,

I have experience the same thing you mentioned.  I am also holding onto my gf's from back home.  Have met people here, but had a girl our age not show up to our get together that she planned.  Then, the next day, called and gave some reason about the night before, something came up.  I sat and waited for her to come over, but she never called or came that night.  She seemed like it was no big deal and called again the next week to get together.  So, I have several acquaintances here.  I understand the frustration too.  I wondered for weeks what was wrong with me?  Why had I been stood up by a new friend twice, by two different girls.  I don't get it.  But, sounds like I am not alone, that some of you had similar experiences.

I had not heard of meetup.com  Maybe I will check it out.