Just need to vent...

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Registered: 09-08-2003
Just need to vent...
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 11:47am

I didnt know where else to go. I have been in a relationship with this man for a year 1/2. I am 37, he is 32. I have known him as a friend for 2 1/2 years. I went after him after finding out he was going thru a divorce. He is the one I have always wanted and I wouldnt change a thing. We are now expecting our first child in a few months and I am moving in with him. Thing is, he is not divorced yet. The soon to be ex wife thinks the reason for the divorce is me but she is the one that filed and moved out of their house with their two kids and she didnt find out about me until we were together for six months.

I offered to live alone and be a single mom for a while and he said no b/c thats not fair and he needs to be responsible for us. He has his other kids 1/2 the time as well. I know he is trying to do the right thing but for me its so frustrating that his ex wont leave us alone. She doesnt know that I am moving in and she doesnt know that I am pregnant. She is a bit psycho and unstable (bi polar and unmedicated) and he doesnt want to "invite" drama. I knew what I was getting into when I started dating him but I wasnt expecting to get pregnant and now I have a baby to worry about and protect from his woman. She doesnt want me to live in HER house but she left that house two years ago. She doesnt want me around her kids. She just wishes I were gone. I guess I cant blame her but I am here and I'm not going anywhere and this baby is coming.

I dont know...im not asking for advice. Im just venting. It is such a complicated situation and I just cant wait for court so this part will be over....but she will never stop her drama.

:( thanks for listening.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 12:24pm

Vent away!!!!!