Need advice! Nice friend calls too often :/
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|Sat, 03-26-2011 - 11:57am|
I have a bit of an issue that I'd like some advice about. I thought this issue would resolve itself but it hasn't really! Now it's just annoying.
I have this friend who calls me too often! I feel silly and even ungrateful saying that, but it's true. I like this friend, and want to continue to be acquaintances, but I don't see this friend as someone who I want to speak with multiple times a week. I'd love to touch base and chat a few times a month, maybe get together for lunch or what have you 1-2x a month. But this person is persistently more intense/clingy/needy than I'm interested being in return. At first I would pick up the phone or return calls out of the desire to be a polite person, but I'd try to keep it brief. Then I would just outright not return calls (sometimes 2-3 calls!) for over a week to give a hint to that person that I only could talk once a week or twice. And why can't I be the one to initiate contact out of the blue?! I'm not given the space to. Instead I'm left with a strange feeling like I'm being manipulated and smothered like I'm obligated?!
I'm not trying to be snobby but I only have so much energy and I have to prioritize how much of that energy I put where in my life. Why can't this friend get that and back off a little? I reeeeeeeally don't want to have to come out and SAY it! Wouldn't most people get the hint by now? What should I do? I want to be friends but not as closely.