one last question on dating divorced dad

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Registered: 11-05-2004
one last question on dating divorced dad
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Thu, 05-28-2009 - 5:56pm

Hello yet again!

Sorry to keep bugging all you gals! But I think of something again after I've already typed! :)

But my current interest and I have very different styles of communication. Me - I like calling, talking all time when I like someone. It just makes me feel better to always be in touch. My divorced dad is more into calling to set up a date or LOVES to text.

So while he's watching his kids for these 2 weeks, I wonder should I just wait until after he has them to call him or check in with him as I normally would?

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 9:03am
sure.. why not??
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Registered: 04-21-2008
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 11:22am
There's no harm in keeping in contact with him, but if he doesn't get back to you right away, don't panic. Taking care of children doesn't leave a lot of time on a single parent's plate. A simple text that says, "Hi, hope things are going well" is perfectly acceptable.


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Registered: 02-05-2008
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 12:09pm

I think it's okay to send a short text, if he responds great.

 
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Registered: 11-05-2004
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 1:50pm

Hola Gals!

I did it! I sent him a text this morning and this small step actually made me feel free. It was actually a flirty-sexy text! I told him how I had a racy dream about him last night, did all these things to him in my dream and that I couldn't wait to re-enact it for him in person!

I've been reading some of the articles you guys have posted about being confident and secure - I think one was posted a few days ago about what men like age-wise. Anyhoo - the articles have really helped me as being secure and confident is my major issue, which ends up sabotaging my relationships. So rather than taking a more aggressive approach to an outcome I desire, I wait around for approval and some reassurance from the other person before I do anything! VERY insecure behavior! Which usually results in me doing nothing but sitting back waiting for the other person and being miserable! A major light bulb went off this morning for me. I don't want to be that way anymore! I want things and I have to not let my fear of what I think other people will think of me and how they will react to me - hold me back.

-R

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Sat, 05-30-2009 - 8:17am

thats great..... i like the way you phrased your light bulb going off in your head....


JUST LET ME WARN YOU to not become like me,, Back when I was a young girl i was so shy.. painfully shy.. would hide behind my dad' if i didnt know who was poking their fingers into my chimpmunk cheeks(i have deep dimples on those cheeks) and lived my whole dealing with people sticking their fingers in my face


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Registered: 11-05-2004
Tue, 06-02-2009 - 6:51pm

That is so funny but nice to hear. I do need to express myself more...people can't read your mind and tell if you are upset! I can be a brat and ask for what I want! :)

He did reply to my text as he was heading up to take his kids to Yosemite this past weekend. Said he was sorry to "be out of pocket" (I guess this is man-speak - ha, ha!) but has had his hands full with kids and work.

Ah well. I hope to see him this weekend after his ex picks the kids up on Friday - I want hugs and kisses! :)

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Registered: 04-27-2009
Tue, 06-02-2009 - 7:02pm
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