Pre-birthday blues

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Registered: 06-26-2002
Pre-birthday blues
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Thu, 11-06-2003 - 4:33pm
It's my birthday this Saturday, the 8th. Turning 33. Feeling a bit down, not because of the age thing, but because I'm kinda disappointed with the way my life has turned out so far i.e. not settled either professionally or romantically. Everything is still up in the air i.e. don't know where I'll end up living and working and if and when I'll ever find someone to share my life with. I'm glad I've had whatever varied experiences I've had, but now is the time I'd like a real job and a real life and it still hasn't happened. Plus, I'm not sure how I'm going to celebrate that day. This is where a tight group of friends and/or a bf would come in. I'll just do something nice for myself that day, I guess. Hope next year will find me living and working happily in the US, with a bf and/or nice social life with good people. 33 had better be a better year with more certainty. Anyone else feel unsettled and not too thrilled with their professional and love life at this age? Sorry to be such a downer again, but I guess it's because society focuses so much on accomplishments, especially those of a professional nature, and I'm not where I had thought I'd be by now (I've done a lot of introspection and realize where I went wrong, but I'm running out of patience in terms of when things will stabilize for me, once and for all).

Do tell me I'm not alone! Have a great rest of the week!

Sapna aka sap198

sap198@yahoo.com

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Registered: 06-09-2003
In reply to: sap198
Thu, 11-06-2003 - 9:41pm
Cheer up; you're definitely not alone! I'll be 32 next month, and I get kind of depressed at times thinking I'm not where I "should be" in life yet. While I am married, I don't know that I'm in the "career" I'd choose for life, I long for children, and am not quite ready to buy a house yet. But you're right; it's society telling is we should be somewhere in life by a certain age. Really, I like to think that in taking my time with the most important things in life, they'll be all the sweeter!

Hope you do something really nice for yourself Saturday, and have a very Happy Birthday:)

Jennifer

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Registered: 05-22-2003
In reply to: sap198
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 10:53am

U are not alone!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: sap198
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 1:56pm

Hi Sapna,


It's good to see you on the board, albeit for a depressing post. I have to say that I'm disappointed in you, girl! You should take this birthday to reflect on all the great things that have happened in your life thusfar and work to improve on those that you aren't happy with. This should be the year you MAKE things happen, not WAIT for them to happen. I agree that if you don't have that closeknit group

Rebecca
Loving wife to David (3-2

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Registered: 11-05-2003
In reply to: sap198
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 3:06pm
Sapna,

Life is filled with so much confusion. The years creep up on us, and we start to feel as if we are way behind.

Life is what you make of it. I'm 32, been married, and not sure if I will ever find the right career. You're not alone. Life is too short to be bummed about the uncertainty. Do something special for yourself on your birthday. Buy yourself that outfit you really want, or pamper yourself at a spa. Look at your birthday as the start of a new year. Set some goals that you want to accomplish by the end of the year. It might be easier to make small changes and see results, than to expect big changes in a year. You might be pleasantly surprised.

I wish I could be there to celebrate Saturday with you, but I'll send good spirits to you.

Happy Birthday!

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Registered: 06-26-2002
In reply to: sap198
Fri, 11-07-2003 - 11:43pm
Thanks, everyone, for the good wishes and insights. I plan to enjoy tomorrow to the fullest, and the rest of my life, take the bad with the good. I am going to make myself more optimistic (I admit I have to do a way better job at being a positive person) and actually make things happen. There's nothing you can't do if you really want to and work hard (and smart!) for it, and I've got to believe that and live it. Have a great weekend!

Sapna