Now after my 30th birthday, the fact that I'm 30 has been growing on me. It's gradual, like you began to realize the difference between you and people in their 20s, and you also began to panic when you think you see the first sign of aging, e.g. your skin doesn't look as good as before. Actually I'm kind of a special case, I look way younger than my age. People often mistook me for an undergrad. One time a delivery man asked me "are you a student?" I said "I'm working." He said "then that's good too. Are you planning to go to college?" I was like, "What? I've already graduated."--way back. He laughed, "but you look too young to graduate from college." I was ashamed to admit I'm actually 30, had gone to grad school and worked several jobs. Some of you may think this is trait for envy, yes it is, but sometimes it backfires too. Like when a guy sees me, he might think I'm too young for him, but in fact I might be just too old for him.
I guess there is a kind of solemness with turning 30. I still don't feel I'm 30, and it's weird to tell people my age. Also I get increasingly impatient with doing things I don't like. Life has limited time, I should spend my time on things I truely enjoy.
There is also a sense that by 30 you should be pretty settled personally and professionally, which is not the case for me. But I've felt better since yesterday after reading some old posts on this board. There are women in their 30s who are on the same boat. So I'm not alone.
Thanks for the question. It's good to communicate. :)
I looked forward to turning 30! I have always been told I look young for my age, so when 30 came and went, I felt like I was FINALLY an adult and people would start taking me more seriously. (Of course, they still think I look younger than 30 and I'm a little beyond that now, so people won't take me seriously until I say what my age is.)
I think in this day and age, 40 is what 30 used to be years ago. When my mom turned 30, I'll never forget it. She was depressed! She was miserable! We put 30 candles on her cake and she just cried! It was not a very fun birthday as we planned it to be. But I think now people are living longer and waiting longer to do things like get married and have kids, so 30 shouldn't be dreaded anymore.
I feel sorry for those of you out there who really DID dread turning 30. For me, it was a very positive turning point in my life and I'd do it all over again!
RebeccaLoving wife to David (3-2
Too bad I met the wrong man and stayedwith him for six years:(Now I'm 36 and wish so bad that I wouldn'thave got my heart involved with him becauseI would love to turn 30 again.
Anyway, I'm 33 now, and turning 30 was just another BD for me. Didn't really care. I guess that's partly because I feel my life is well settled, happily married, great kids and career beyond my wildest dreams, and probably because I'm always told I look younger. I had an electrician over here earlier this week and he said he thought I was about 24 :) Couldn't beleive I had a 15 yo! what a sweet kid!
But also, My father is 83 now and in terrific health. He was still snow skiing and water skiing in his mid-60s, and is very active to this day. He looks and acts more like 50-60 now, even though he's 83. I think growing up with an older parent who was so active gave me a very positive outlook on aging. Crows feet and age spots are nothing. Now the slower metabolism is another story...I spend twice as much time working out now with half the results :(
I am so not looking forward to those teenage years! I have a step son who will be 14 on xmas eve and a dd who will be 9 dec. 28. Their birthdays are always harder than my own. Where are the years going? 30 is bad enough but as I am nearing 40 I will have a 15, 16, 18, and 21 year old on my hands... I guess when you think of it that way I should be darn happy to only be 30. lol
A few months ago I got carded trying to buy a lottery ticket!! I do look younger than my age, but obviously not under 18... though I have to admit that does make ya feel pretty good! :p