Round two with the Divorced Dad...
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|Mon, 10-19-2009 - 4:11pm|
I'm back!!!! Back in July I was asking for and getting wonderful advice from everyone on dating a divorced dad.
Quick recap - we basically stopped talking in July. I reached out a couple of times and got quick, informational replies about him and his kids. So I thought okay I tried my best - got the message - he's not interested. I'll move on.
I went on this big bike trip to Europe at the beginning of August. Suddenly when I return I get this email from him about how it seems we are moving in different directions, and he hopes my trip went well. At first I thought - what - I don't understand this email. He stopped talking to me! Then I noticed he also attached an article to the email written about my company and his company. Apparently my company made a healthy profit that quarter, and his company's profits went down. So I then figured that was what he was referring to when he said we were "heading in different directions".
Anyway moving forward - over the next few weeks he would send me a text or an email asking what I was doing or just some little joke or teasing comment. Finally he asks me to go to a movie. I was out of town and said I'd take a rain check. Well the next week he asks me again to go for a drink. Again I wasn't available but suggest another time. The time I suggest was the weekend he had his kids. I did meet them before we stopped talking so he invited me over for dinner. So I went to his house for dinner and we had a really fun time. Playing with the kids and catching up. I also let him know that it did hurt my feelings that he just basically stopped talking to me for over a month and a half. To this he replied well you stopped talking to me too. We discussed a bit more about communication and things like that - things he already knows that bother me about his communication style. We agree to wipe the slate clean and move forward.
Well this past week we were going to meet for a drink but some work commitmments came up so he asked me out for this past Friday. He actually called me again and sent me some texts before Friday - which was a nice change from before. He took me for wine and dinner - nice time. We were able to catch up some more. Well I stayed over his place and in the morning I had the worst headache - I get migraines. He was sweet got me some medicine; went and got coffee and scones. Well I ended up staying at his place until the afternoon. He went to school in Texas and their big rivalry football game was on. Normally he would meet his friends at this bar to watch the game. I told him to go ahead, take me home and go. But he said no it was okay - the game was going to start so he would stay home and watch. So I laid around getting over my headache while he watched the game. After the game was over he planned to workout and then get some work done since he will have his boys for the next 4 days. He dropped me off and asked what my plans were the rest of the day. I mainly was going to shop and then had a housewarming party to go to. I told him he could come with me if he wanted. He said to call him later b/c maybe he would need a break from work. So I called that night left a message about the party. Didn't hear back but figured he is just working.
So that is the recap. It is so weird being back in touch with him. But it feels good because I still like him. But honestly I'm scared. I'm wary especially from what happened before with him. I'm trying not to get all crazy and insecure if he doesn't call me back or respond right away - like I would want him to. I'm just unsure of this whole situation. I mean already I'm like okay I haven't heard from him and I feel unsettled by it. Ugh! His life situation is still the same as it was a couple of months ago. I just can't read him. And I really don't want to get sucked in again like before...