Selfish, Picky, High standards?????

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Registered: 12-20-2004
Selfish, Picky, High standards?????
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Fri, 05-29-2009 - 4:42am

Recently I met a guy

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 8:46am

i am probably going to be thrashed for this.... however... If there literally is NOTHING THERE.. no spark,,, no possible friendship down the road..

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 12:20pm

I don't think you're being selfish or picky or have too high of standards.

 
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Registered: 12-20-2004
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 1:03pm

Thanks for your answers, they helped a lot.

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Registered: 04-21-2004
Fri, 05-29-2009 - 9:11pm

I've been called picky - that I haven't met a man that measures up to my 'exacting standards'. It's a group joke to the point I have it as my 'welcome message' on my cell phone on start-up. But I keep thinking it's trying to connect to the network when I see it!

I'm actively trying to work away from 'type' and just see - at nearly 35, there aren't as many men around! I'm semi-working to a book called "The Program - How to Find a Husband after 35". It's simply based on meeting as many men as possible, even if they aren't your 'type'.

One friend, who's a great bloke. He wasn't regarded as a catch in our 20's. He's a bit over-weight, and he's 'nice-looking', but no supermodel. At a lunch recently, he says it gives all us normal blokes a go at meeting someone because either all the studs are off the market, or women have cottoned onto the player personality and are more willing to overlook the package to get to know the guy underneath. I really liked hearing his perspective.

So I say great for meeting someone. It doesn't matter there simply was no 'click', you met someone different.

What I find frustrating that people don't get there was no 'click'. Would you continue to date someone you had no chemistry with? No? Then why do you expect ME to???!

Siggy

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Sat, 05-30-2009 - 8:10am
yea if there is no spark.. then its not there and you cant change that... I kept thinking after 22+yrs with hubby # 1 i would finally feel the spark that was supposed to be there... and it never arrived..
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Registered: 12-20-2004
Sat, 05-30-2009 - 2:24pm

I think my friend was thinking this could be a big deal for me then

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Registered: 04-15-2008
Sun, 05-31-2009 - 7:34am
uh yea... i agree with ya.... I stopped buying a extra ticket for whatever a long time ago...
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Registered: 12-20-2004
Sun, 05-31-2009 - 1:18pm

The concert's today, I am going, it would be rude of me to cancel like another friend suggested.

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Registered: 04-27-2009
Sun, 05-31-2009 - 5:23pm
Before I ever met my husband and was still dating, there were several guys

 

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 06-01-2009 - 1:36pm

I hope you enjoy the concert, and yes meeting him is a way of keeping it light and keeping yourself safe.

 

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