Thursday Chat 3/18

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Thursday Chat 3/18
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Thu, 03-18-2010 - 12:38pm
Good Morning.
 

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Thu, 03-18-2010 - 1:20pm

work schedule isn't totally full.

 
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Thu, 03-18-2010 - 2:26pm

Aw it sounds like everyone in your life's having "boy trouble" at the moment :-(

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Thu, 03-18-2010 - 5:26pm

Yeah, DD17 called me earlier to let me know she's doing okay.

 
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Thu, 03-18-2010 - 9:13pm

YES! It is the same coworker, LOL! ;-D

We did have a good time with my dad, thank you! :-)

I certainly don't mind you asking about my stepmom, but I also don't want to write a book and bore you to death. I probably will anyway ;-) My parents divorced when I was 12 and it seemed very sudden (it was my mom who was unfaithful). Both of them remarried within a year, so I had some major adjustment to do. My dad and SM each had one daughter, but my stepsister was already "grown" (21, married, pregnant). My mom & dad had raised me fairly liberally and I had a lot of privileges and was treated a lot like a grown up. Meanwhile my stepmom took issue with a lot of my dad's parenting decisions because she was *MUCH* more strict with her DD (like night and day). So there was a lot of tension during my teen years.

Overall, I think my SM was fine and tried to stay out of the way and let my dad make most decisions (my mom was still in the picture and I spent every other weekend and some week night time with her, but I lived with my dad/SM the majority of the time). But I still resented my SM a lot and rebelled against her at times. My dad became more conservative and a little stricter and while at 33 I now appreciate that...at the time I blamed SM.

I moved out on my own at 18 and since then I have had a much more friendly relationship with my SM. When I was 24-28 I worked for her, helping to set up and then manage her side business (an educational supply store and mail order business) while she worked at her main job. That was both good and bad because family + work isn't usually a good combo in my opinion. But overall it went well and today we get along great. I'm a lot closer with my dad, have weekly lunch dates with him, etc...but DH & I get together with my dad & SM every month or two and we have a great time together. My marriage to DH in some ways is very similar to my dad & SM's marriage which I view as a good thing, my stepmom is a very strong & successful woman and now I'm finally able to appreciate the good things I have learned from her and that she is 100% different from my mom...but they're both amazing women!

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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 1:05am
I have had a lot of assignments this week and I am getting ready for final exams.
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 5:03am

Hello...Hello....Hello.....


Sorry I've been MIA....


Well this week is finally over for me!






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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 12:46pm

Thanks for sharing!!

 
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 12:47pm

I hope your exams go really well!!!!!

 
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 12:51pm

Hi Veronica - Good to hear from you!!

 
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Fri, 03-19-2010 - 1:57pm

Kristie, I think that is awesome about your breakthrough with your boyfriend's daughter!

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