Update on I'm Worried

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Update on I'm Worried
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Tue, 10-20-2009 - 12:51pm

Well, I can't say that I'm not worried anymore, but a lot happened yesterday, so I will try to keep this as short and to the point as possible.


You all know that D's DD17 has been sneaking around with a 23 year old man.

 
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Registered: 11-01-2005
Tue, 10-20-2009 - 1:13pm

Oh, Kristi. There are so many complicated emotions surrounding this issue. Being adopted, D and X being divorced, being 17 and struggling with her own identity, thinking about what her future looks like, what it means to be an adult soon...


Teenagers all go through this transitional time. Trying to cut the apron string, but hang on at the same time. It's a really difficult adjustment.


I am happy they all got together in the same room to talk. At the very least, that shows DD17 how much her mom and dad do really care about her. She may not show it right now, but that is what she needs to know.

Also, she will know and remember that you were one of her big supporters. When she gets through the teenage angst and grows up a little, she will look back and remember how good you were to her. That matters. She might not say it - now or later - but, trust me, she knows.

I hope things continue to look up! Hang in there.


AJ, enjoying life with C.

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Registered: 02-05-2008
Tue, 10-20-2009 - 2:10pm

Hi AJ,


I agree there is a lot to all of this.

 
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Registered: 02-05-2008
Wed, 10-21-2009 - 12:19pm

Well, DD17 had her first "alone" (only in a public place) meeting with her Mom yesterday.

 
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Registered: 04-15-2008
Thu, 10-22-2009 - 8:23am
and i will pray for you and her everyday until you tell me to stop.. which i wont... but anyway....
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Registered: 02-05-2008
Thu, 10-22-2009 - 12:26pm

Thanks Deb!! :0)


You know my heart tells me she is using the fact that D adopted her to divert the attention away from she sneaking around with someone WAY too old for her.

 
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Registered: 04-15-2008
Fri, 10-23-2009 - 9:07am

oh kristie... i read every word you have ever wrote on anything on this board, and i wish i could help you.. more than just a few kind words.