What did I do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-29-2003
What did I do?
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Wed, 12-17-2003 - 1:19pm
I don't know what's happened. I used to be the cool girl at work, but another girl just out of college started about 6 months ago and every guy here likes her. She's got someone talking to her every 10 minutes and it's always a guy. There's nothing special about her. She doesn't wear any makeup, wears sweatshirts most of the time, doesn't have the clearest face--all of these describe me as well but guys won't talk to me unless it's work related. I like her, she's fun and we're friends, but she's obviously more outgoing. One of the guys here used to go to lunch with me and another guy but ever since she started he doesn't talk to me and barely even looks at me when we pass in the hall. He talks to her all the time. Both of us were going to lunch one day and she had asked him to come along earlier in the day and he said he would but when he found out I was going, he said he had something he had to get done and wasn't coming. He pays attention to everythign she says and kids around with her, but whenever I try to get in on the conversation he leaves. What happened here? He's 33, I'm 31 and she's 22!
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-15-2003
In reply to: mapper71
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 2:29pm
He's 33, I'm 31 and she's 22! you answered your own question......that is my guess

best of luck,

coop



iVillage Member
Registered: 12-08-2003
In reply to: mapper71
Wed, 12-17-2003 - 5:27pm
And the "prospect" is new .... thats always interesting to men.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-20-2003
In reply to: mapper71
Sun, 12-21-2003 - 8:00pm
First of all it's a very bad idea to date someone that you work with. Maybe she is one of those girls who can relate to men well. The fact that she is probably 22 and he is 33 or so that should answer your question.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-23-2003
In reply to: mapper71
Wed, 12-24-2003 - 10:29am
I just decided to browse this board and after reading your post I had to comment. I'm one who enjoys the spotlight so I can understand your predicament, however, your post sounded as if it were written by someone in junior high school! Grow up!
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-01-2003
In reply to: mapper71
Fri, 12-26-2003 - 1:26pm


Hi,mapper71:


I understand how you feel cause I have felt that way before. But belive me it doesn't have anything to do with you. It could be the way you are interpreting everything here or maybe you are focusing too much on the outside on what others have that you don't. Belive me everyone has something that you don't and viceversa and I'm sure that there are things that you have that these girls don't. Besides tastes and preferences are not standard in every guy and human beign and you don't need their approval to feel ok. STOP focusing on others and FOCUS on YOURSELF. Haven't you thought that these people notice what you've been thinking. People perceive this things even thought you think they don't. You should start raising your self-esteem and accept that every human being is exceptional, unique in every way. RAISE YOUR SELF-ESTEEM AS I'M DOING AT THIS MOMENT, I KNOW THAT WITH THIS YOUR PROBLEM WILL BE OVER. HUGGGGGSS!!!