What should I do with this knowledge?

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Registered: 04-18-2010
What should I do with this knowledge?
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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 5:33pm

I'm new to this board and REALLY need some advice. A co-worker of mine is cheating on her long-time boyfriend and I want the boyfriend to find out. I hate this co-worker (I know hate is a strong word but this person is genuinely awful) and want to see her get what she deserves but the circumstances of how I found out would be detrimental to my job if she found out. There are a few reasons why I want her boyfriend to find out, one of which is that my husband cheated on me and if I knew that someone else knew about it and never told me, I would be very upset.

Please help! I was thinking about sending one of those anonymous emails from those free services but I don't know...

Thanks for reading!

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Registered: 02-21-2010
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:47am

I would tell the boyfriend only if you are sure you can do it anonymously and you are really 100% sure there will not be any professional repercussions for you in the future. if you are not sure that can be accomplished, then don't bother. sooner or later i would think he will find out.

as a guy, if i knew one of my friends was being cheated on, I don't think I would say anything. I personally would think it's not my place to say anything. good luck

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 12:36pm

Hi signfeldnut,


Welcome to the board!!


this is a very sticky situation and I think there are a few things you need to consider.

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-18-2010
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 1:52pm

Thanks for the reply. It's good to get a guy's opinion. I've decided I'm not going to do anything for now. This decision has mainly come from the fact that my idiot co-worker has already done enough bad to everyone around her and if I lose my job over her, she will still be accomplishing what she sets out to do: hurt people.

Thanks for your advice.

-Megan

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Registered: 08-06-2006
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 2:44pm
Hi,
I due apologize, but my response varies. Why?
Are you bored? Are you simply vindictive? Why is it any of your business? You hate her?
I don't know, simply don't deal with her. Enjoy your own life. I don't know. Perhaps I am simply naive. Lol!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2008
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 3:05pm

Hi someguy2010,


Welcome to the board!!