What a Woman Wants

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Registered: 04-04-2003
What a Woman Wants
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 6:06pm
Hello Ladies:

I am new this message board so hello to all. My sorority is hosting a small discussion session on the topic of what women want. But we are looking at it from all angles. Which means that we are asking women of different ages, different races and different backgrounds to see if it is universal and to see how much we really are different. So ladies if you could please help me out a little bit I will greatly appreciate it. Basically all you have to tell me is what a woman wants out of a relationship. And I mean from all aspects of the relationship and that means sex also. How much have your expectations changed has you have grown and matured? ANd any other important stuff you may need or want to tell. If you could include your age and race I will greatly appreciate it. Thank You


PS: And also answer this question if possible... Do men of different races want the same things when it comes to relationships? Or do you think there is a difference. I may try to get to that problem also.

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Registered: 02-18-2004
Wed, 02-18-2004 - 6:17pm
I want to be loved. I want to be desired. I want to feel special. I think everyone should feel like they are a princess. I want respect. I want my man to know that he is damn lucky to have me. I want to be ravished. I want to be told that I'm sexy. I want to be listened to. I want to be asked how I'm doing. I want sweet nothings whispered in my ear. When we're out, I want my man to tell me how much I'm turning him on and he wants to ---- me. I have my own job, make my own money and can take care of myself...but I just want a guy to desire to take care of me. Don't get me wrong, I do not need a man to clothe me, feed me or pay my bills. I just want a man to want to be my protector and have the desire to want to care for me. I want to be courted. I want romance. I want surprises. I want a man to buy me lingerie and make love to me gently and then I want to be aggressively ravished because he can't get enough. I want a man to run his fingers through my hair and to watch me while I'm sleeping. Is this too much?
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Registered: 04-13-2003
Sun, 02-22-2004 - 1:36pm

To answer your question, first I think it doesnt matter what race you are. Most women pretty much want the same thing in a man. Someone to love, respect, and appreciate them. But there are some one that have men that arent like this and they are still with them. Why? I have no idea and it really doesnt matter what race you are. I have friends of all races and religions and all of them have different relationships with their men. But when it boils down to it, they all want the same thing. Now, do they get the kind of men that they want most of the time? NO Why? because my friends seem to think that they cant find men like that so they settle. Me personally, I dont settle. I am biracial and I have a SO that is of a different race and we have very similar interest and backgrounds. But I do believe that most women want men that are loving, supportive, affectionate, caring, and sexual but dont often find men like that. I have some friends of mine that have completely turned to the opposite race seeking a man with those particular traits and wind up finding another who can of worms. So I must say that I do believe that most women (in all races) seem to want the same thing in a man. But dont always find it, and convence themselves that this is all that is out there and settle and accept what they have and try to change them. It wont work. My philosophy is.....if im going to be miserable with a man.... I mind as well be miserable by myself so I have no one to blame for my misery but myself. :-)