Why don't people back off???
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|Thu, 08-02-2012 - 10:21pm|
Let me first just start off by saying I am aware that I am a sensitive person. When I want something, I want it bad and I want it now. I have been with my boyfriend for close to 2 years now, and I truly love him. We have talked about our future together and have decided that I will move into his place next May / June and sell my home to my sister. He is aware that I will not do this unless we are engaged to be married.
The problem I have is I feel as if he drags his feet and will wait until the end of April to propose. He is very relaxed while I am a planner. I map every detail of my life out (not saying that's right but it's what I do). It has been weighing heavily on my heart that even though he tells me he's ready maybe he's not. On top of this I am constantly getting asked why I'm not engaged by now. I have a sister who is 10 years younger than me and is set to get married. I am not competing with her, I just want this for my own life. I feel as if my clock is ticking and my time to have children is fading away. So with all of that on my mind it's hard, but when I have to hear the constant comments it breaks my heart. I know I should have a tougher skin but I don't.
I know I am one of many women in this world who are either dealing with or have dealt with this. How do you deal with the people asking and the relaxed boyfriend? Thank you.