Dealing with difficult people

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Registered: 07-05-2007
Dealing with difficult people
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Wed, 12-28-2011 - 7:55pm

I work in a doctors office as a receptionist. The woman I was hired to help (I have only been there for 2 months) behaves, for the most part, very negatively towards me.

I know she feels threatened but I have gone out of my way to make her feel at ease. If she snaps at me I try to ignore it and focus on being calm and projecting that outwards but it is starting to wear me down.

I have read that writting negative things

Blessed Be
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Registered: 07-20-2001
Thu, 02-23-2012 - 2:34pm

Let me first say that I'm not actually Pagan but have friends who are.

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Registered: 03-09-2001
Sun, 02-05-2012 - 3:56pm

Glad some of it helped! ;)

And, no, it's not to late to hope. Our species has a long way to go, but we have come a long way. Changes happen one person at a time. :P


Blessings,

Gypsy

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Registered: 07-05-2007
Tue, 01-31-2012 - 6:55am

So sorry it took me so long to respond to your post!

Blessed Be
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Registered: 03-09-2001
Thu, 12-29-2011 - 3:18pm

How about some spellwork? Protective shielding around you, yet enveloping her in loving and healing energy as well as yourself? I have also used shielding and cleansing showers/baths to remove the jarring energy after a work day. The listing and burning in your cauldron is a good idea, also.

I am working on a Zen concept of "compassionate breathing" as well... When such situations occur, the negative harmful energy being directed at me, or others and I am present. I try to breathe in the suffering and then in the next breath, let it all go, breathing out. Realize this person is suffering and expressing her mental suffering toward you. It's a meditative concept:

"Someone you dislike:

Breathe in the suffering of someone you dislike – someone you think has hurt you - and breathe out compassion to the person. Realize that the person, like everyone else, wants to be happy. Because of negative thinking, the person makes harmful choices that lead to suffering. If you increase that suffering, the person may behave even worse. You are best off developing compassion so you can think clearly about how to deal with the person in a manner that brings back good consequences, not bad ones (karma). Open your heart to the person. "

More here: http://www.tc.umn.edu/~camer008/meditation.tonglen.html

Hope that helps! ♥


Blessings,

Gypsy

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