Nosy

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Thu, 07-23-2009 - 1:19am
Hi All,
So em like really, really nosy right and thought I'll stop by to ask a cue.
I'm christian and havr befriended individuals of all walks of life.
I am nosy and wondering if any of you have christians friends? How's the friendships? Fun?, good?, don't discuss your spiritual paths?
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In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Thu, 07-23-2009 - 1:25pm
That depends entirely on the person. I live in the buckle of the Bible Belt and here you cannot go anywhere----the library, the grocery store, the hair salon, the post office----without someone asking you what church you go to, or where your children attend Sunday school. Here it is automatically assumed that you are a Christian. It is also the state where an openly Wiccan woman had her home and car vandalized, her pets killed and her children threatened at school because she dared to live openly as a non-Christian in a small Southern town. She wasn't a native to this state, so she didn't realize that you just don't do that. This is also the state where my father was raised and he wanted to raise his children, only he forgot that when he was growing up his family was Christian and he no longer was. We held out in his hometown for a year, but were shunned by everyone in town (except for his family) because we weren't Christians. So I learned many years ago not to discuss my religion or I would be shunned or prosecuted for it.

I have some Christian friends, but we really don't discuss religion on a day-to-day basis. Otherwise, my relationships with them are fine. As long as they don't try to convert me, get me to go their church, that's fine with me. They can believe what they want to believe. I don't attempt to convert them to my religion, because that is not something that Pagans do. If someone asks me about my religious path I will tell them, but most times I don't discuss it. Because we Pagans are not taught to "witness" and "share the word" and things like that, we don't. It's not our way. And since I don't base my friendships on what path they follow, it really doesn't come up. To me, my religion is a personal thing, like my sexuality and my politics, something that I don't go around sharing. And since I don't base my friendships on either sexuality or politics, I also have friends who are gay, straight, bi and a couple who are transgendered, just as I have friends who Republican and those that are Democrat and some Libertarian and from the Green Party.


So I guess in my long-winded way I'm trying to say, that yes, I do have Christian friends. I just don't discuss religion with them, for two reasons: I don't base friendships on religion and it doesn't matter to me what path they follow. They have their god and I have mine.

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In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Thu, 07-23-2009 - 1:42pm

I grew up Baptist and was told quite strongly that anything other than Christianity would get you to hell.

Sarah


 


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In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Thu, 07-23-2009 - 10:28pm

Hi and thank you for posting your question on our board..

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In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Sat, 07-25-2009 - 8:55pm

I'm not out of the broom closet with most of my acquaintences and co-workers, and we don't really talk religion. My sister knows I'm a witch. My best friend does too. I've been giving my parents little hints recently (like wearing a pentagram necklace and having a personalized apron that says "Kitchen Witch"). They've always known that I was "into" mystical and spiritual beliefs and practices, even when I was Christian, so I think they're pretty okay with it.


I will wear my pentagram in public among strangers and I don't really care what they think. So far no one has come up to me to ask about it.


I follow the "live and let live" philosophy. I can live with someone being a Christian as long as they can live with me being a witch. If a person were to try to convert me or say I was going to hell, I guess I would tell them that I don't believe in the devil or hell. I would also tell them not to presume what the Divine has in store for any of us.


~Caeldi~

 

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Registered: 07-26-2004
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Sat, 07-25-2009 - 8:59pm

**mostly it's a friendly tease about "woo woo stuff".**


OMGs, I know a woman who uses that expression "woo woo" to refer to anything magical or mystical! I'd never heard anyone else say that until I read your post. Too funny!


~Caeldi~

 

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In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 8:45am
Not only do I have have Christian Friends but I have a Christian Partner.
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Registered: 07-17-2009
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Wed, 07-29-2009 - 1:07pm
A lot of my friends are Christian but most of them are pretty open-minded and don't believe I'm going to hell for not being Christian. That line of thinking helps the friendships. We can talk about our difference in beliefs but we respect each other while we disagree and we don't bring it up all the time. Just when the issue presents itself.
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Registered: 12-16-2006
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Sat, 08-01-2009 - 9:12pm

Good Morrow Sweetbeauty,


Up until the other day I hadn't

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Registered: 03-20-2009
In reply to: sweetbeauty30
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 1:13pm

Hi,


I have many Christian friends but I have learned to keep very silent about my own path as it is very frowned upon and life can be made very difficult.