QOTW: How Do You Define Family?

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QOTW: How Do You Define Family?
Sun, 07-05-2009 - 7:00pm
If you ask the average person what a family is, they are likely to say blood relatives, such as parents, children, silblings, grandparents, etc. Do you consider your own family to include other people? What about your SO's family? Do you count in-laws and your SO's grandparents and cousins and the like as included in your family? What about close friends? Are you as close to your best friend as you are to a sibling? If you are adopted, do you include both your biological parents and their relatives and the parents you were raised with as family? What if most of your relatives are gone or you are estranged from your family? Can you "adopt" others as your family? Is your live-in SO and their children your family even though you are not married to your SO? And how do you see your deity? Do you see him/her/it/they almost in a parental figure way?
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Sun, 07-05-2009 - 11:51pm
I lean toward the close blood relative scenario although I've never been like my Grandmother and tracked all the cousins three times removed... DH's brothers are part of or lives but I don't consider them *MY* family.

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Mon, 07-06-2009 - 1:13am
Yes, to almost everyone you named.
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Mon, 07-06-2009 - 3:21am

IMHO one has the family one was born into, and one has the family that one chooses to have in one's life. The family that one chooses can comprise of anyone that one feels a close bond and affinity with in addition to other qualities.

My own family comprise of my parents, my brother, my nephew, my SIL, my friend L and her family, and a few other friends. These are the people that I really love. I know that I am loved back, and that I am safe with them. We might fight, we might not see each other for months or years at a time, but the underlying feeling is love. The connection is always there no matter what. Their kids are family for me, too :-)

No, I don't see myself as in a parent/child relationship with the god that I believe in.

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Tue, 07-07-2009 - 3:12pm

I consider most everyone who's intimately involved in my life part of my

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