Ying Energy

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Ying Energy
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Mon, 05-16-2011 - 7:33am

Greetings all.

If I have been a little quiet its because life has not been going well right now. First my Partner needed $1200 worth of work on her car, then her DD ended up in the emergency room last week after fainting twice at school (turns out she has Mono), then my car ended up in the shop to the tune of $1400 and now we find out my Partner may lose her job due to budget cuts.

I knew I was due for some Yin energy to enter my life to balance out all the wonderful things that have been happen, but really guys, this is killing me.

Anyone that can send some positive vibes it would be greatly appreciated it.

Thanks,

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Registered: 12-24-2005
Mon, 05-16-2011 - 9:33pm

Hi Tings-tang,

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 05-17-2011 - 8:18am

Aww Tommy,

Thank you so much. You got me all choked up. Knowing people out there are rooting for you and sending positive thoughts, helps in ways you cant imagine.

*HUGS

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Tue, 05-17-2011 - 12:31pm

I'm sorry that all of this has been happening to you. Life problems have been the main reason why I myself haven't been posting here either. Neither DH nor I have jobs right now. I'm working for a non-profit but as anyone who's worked for a non-profit knows, with the pay you do get you might as well be a volunteer. DH is a college student but he's not going to school this summer so he won't be getting a student loan check to help us through the summer. We're down to our last $1400 in the bank and this is supposed to somehow get us through until August. I don't think so! DH does have an interview next Monday for a government internship that would pay well. And I'm currently waiting to hear from two places where I interviewed last week. I'm trying to maintain hope but it's really difficult right now. So I know where you're coming from. So I could use some positive vibes sent my way as well. And of course I'm sending positive vibes your way, too!

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Tue, 05-17-2011 - 2:28pm

Thanks Honey!

I will definitely send positive thoughts your way as well. Im ususally pretty good at taking what comes in stride, but this time it seems to be an avalance I*sigh and I have to keep telling myself its not my fault.

Things have been getting a little tight for awhile and we kept saying we were going to tighten our belts, but then I would think, "hell you only live once" and not worry if we used the credit card for something. But the final blow was this past week, because I have really really been wanting a Nook for a while and while I Knew I should wait for Christmas, I was getting depressed about things at work and also found out you can get refurbished ones alot cheaper, so I decided I was just going to do it. Well of course the day it arrived (Friday the 13th) is when it all started to fall apart, so now I keep thinking that this is all my fault. Not that in the grand scheme of our problems that if we had $150 less on my credit card it would make any difference, but the nagging thought of karmic retribution keeps invading my thoughts.

And this is always when it sucks that I dont believe in a divine entity, because there isnt anyone to look to.I know its just the universe doing what it normally does, which is seek balance, but on the day to day living front, its really hard to get out of bed these days.

Any ideas on how to deal with this from a Pagan perspective?

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Wed, 05-18-2011 - 12:56pm

The positive vibes you've sent my way seem to have worked. I got a call yesterday that I now have a new job! I'm going to be working as a kennel tech in an emergency veterinary clinic, which is the job that I wanted. I'll be working there on the weekends and the holidays. There is room for advancement and training so that I won't remain as a kennel tech. And this also means that I'll still be able to continue working during the week at the cat sanctuary. And other good news: DH has an interview for a summer internship at the financial department of the county government. He's an accounting major so this will be good experience for him and it pays pretty well. So hopefully my good vibes to you will work well for you!

I understand feeling guilty about buying stuff when your finances are tight. I'm a believer in retail therapy. It feels good to buy yourself something when you're depressed; that is, until the guilt sets in and then you get more depressed. Been there done that many times. However, I see the Nook as a good investment and here is why. I'd been thinking about getting a Nook for a long time and I got one in February as a birthday gift for myself. I'm a voracious reader, so it's one of the best gifts I ever got. So it's not just sitting around being used as a paperweight. I use my Nook every day. What I like is that you can download books for free or very inexpensively for your Nook. The most I've paid for a book is $18.95, but it was for a book I was trying to read in paperback at the time. The copy I had was in trade paperback size and it was 1200 pages long, and I was having difficulty holding and reading it. So I was willing to spend that money to put it on my Nook. I have a lot of collections on my Nook, like the entire collections of Wilde, Poe, Lovecraft, Dickens, etc. And a lot of these collections have 50+ titles. The thing is, the most I've spent for any of these collections has been $3.99. The entire collection of Poe was only 99 cents. A lot of books I downloaded for free, Here are a couple of websites that have free or very inexpensive e-books:

http://inkmesh.com/

http://nookdeals.blogspot.com/

There are other sites, like Smaswords, but I only included these two because on them you can download directly and don't have to sideload your books like you would have to on Smashwords. And don't forget Free Fridays on the Nook. This way if your partner was to take a look at the books that you have and complain about them, saying that they cost money you needed for gas or groceries, you can tell her, "But, sweetie, these were all free."

I'm really glad for the Nook because DH has been saying that we might have to get rid of the cable and the Internet for the summer because we can't afford them. This way I'd have my books to read when I couldn't watch TV or surf the Net. So I would see your buying the Nook as a way to save your sanity when your situation gets rough. I know that it does that for me.

And I don't see Friday the 13th as an unlucky day. It never has been for me. After all, I got married on Friday the 13th.

As for how a Pagan deals with bad stuff, I'm a person who does not believe that everything happens for a reason. I do believe in accidents and coincidence and that stuff happens. That's just the way life is. Sometimes we make bad choices and we deal with the consequences. I don't believe that we unconciously choose these actions so that it will teach us a lesson. And I don't think that it has to do with bad luck or karma. We're humans and we make mistakes and we move on (or not). Now, having Deities can make life a bit better, because They are there to pray to or just to commune with. It does make me feel better knowing that They are there. I tend to see Them as almost like parental figures, but They aren't there to punish me or to reward me. They are there to listen and give me advice (particularly since I didn't get that from my own parents). I can complain to Them about what's going on and They can show me the way to go. Now whether I listen to Them is up to me. If I don't They aren't going to throw a lightning bolt after me. I don't blame Them when things go wrong (I do know Christians who blame their God when bad stuff happens). They didn't cause the circumstances. Sometimes I did, or someone else did or sometimes it's just life.

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Wed, 05-18-2011 - 4:38pm

ThanKs sooo much. You words always help and I am so glad things are looking up for you. Congratulations on the job.

And I do agree I think the Nook was some of the best money I ever spent since I love to read so much. So far I have gotten a few 99c books and also 2 library books which is so cool because I dont have to leave the house to get them.

ALso, I dont really have anything much to lend yet, but I would be happy to share books with you if you ever want to, just let me know. I think that (and being able to get library books) is the reason I chose Nook over Kindle or Kobo.

Thank you again, you really help lift my spirits.

*hugs

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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 9:43am

(Hugs) Caly!

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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 5:18pm

Thanks Tasha!

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Fri, 05-20-2011 - 6:06pm

Thanks for your words, Caly. I was glad to help! I do hope that your situation gets better soon. I've always felt that the old saying "When it rains it pours" to be true. It seems like when one thing goes wrong there is an avalanche effect.

I've never used the Lend Me feature on the Nook, but it sounds like it would be fun. I also haven't gotten books from the library yet, but like you, that was one of the big reasons why I got the Nook.

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Sat, 05-21-2011 - 11:00am

Getting Library books is pretty easy. You have to download Adobe Digital Editions to your computer first, so you have a place to put the books, because the Library cant hook directly with your Nook. But you just get the free software, then go to your library ebook section and if its available download it. Then hook your Nook to your computer and open ADE. It will show that your Nook is available and you just drag and drop the book icon to your Nook icon and done.

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