All I want is respect!
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|Fri, 08-20-2010 - 10:56pm|
I went for years dating men, without knowing what I was missing out on. And then I met him, and everything changed.
He never stared at my chest, was very discreet about looking at my ass, never made passes that made me uncomfortable, respected me as a human being, as a woman, and as my individual self. That respect he gave me, even before he really got to know me, changed the way I see men. I had never been treated so FAIRLY and GOOD by men before!
And when we were finally intimate, it was the best sex I ever had, because I was so comfortable. So happy and secure knowing that he wasn't using me, or that he didn't want to just get off and get out. I had had a boyfriend before, and he never made me feel that good ever.
We ended a year ago, because he decided to move when I wasn't able to. We are still friends, even though I've had to back off because I was so hurt having to give up on something so wonderful.
But now, when I go out on dates, I notice how these men don't respect me to the standard I got used to. I feel that settling for anything less than I was given before would be wrong. I deserve to feel that wonderful again!
The problem is, I've gone on several dates since we ended, but I haven't met a guy who treats me that well. Some want sex after the second MEETING (not even a date), some don't even seem to care that they barely know me as long as they get me in bed.
I'm frustrated because I just don't know what to do. Any advice? Ideas on where I might find a good man? I realize I may be looking for a while, and I'm not in any hurry, but I feel that men like that must be rare.