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Sat, 10-09-2010 - 3:08pm

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Registered: 09-27-2010
Sat, 10-09-2010 - 5:21pm

Hi...I know what it's like to have an age difference weigh on your mind. I am only 24 but my husband is 34....a whopping 10 year difference. In the beginning of our relationship it weighed heavily on my mind, wondering what people thought about us being together, especially his family. But as time went on, we found to have quite a bit in common and with every new thing we learned about each other, the age issue seemed to disappear. His family later revealed to me that they never thought about my age because I came off as more mature and responsible than the "norm" for my age group. I realize that it's not quite the same for you, since you are the older one, however, he is 21. (At least he's legal age for drinking. LOL! I married my hubby when I was 19....can u imagine being at ur own wedding and not legally be allowed to have a drink?) Anyways, the way I see it is, if you and him don't see your ages as a problem, then it really shouldn't be anyone else's concern. And it's not like you have jumped things along and skipped 100 steps in building a realtionship. But it sounds as though you have a sturdy foundation growing with him and even though you don't want to disrespect any family or friends, I think you should see where this relationship will lead to. Your family and friends love you and want to see you happy....at least they should. If you are truly concerned about it, talk to a couple of your closest friends, simply ask them how they would feel about it. And all you are doing is exchanging emails....you said he is in another city so the temptation is down, but use that to your advantage. Use that distance between you to just talk and figure out how much you have in common, If you find something building between the two of you, move it to the next level, but you have time before you get to that point. So for now, just enjoy. There is no harm in talking. Good luck!!!

-Baby Girl

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Registered: 10-09-2010
Sat, 10-09-2010 - 6:39pm

Thanks for your reply :-)

That would be tough not being able to have a drink at your wedding!