Approached by an older gentleman??!!

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Approached by an older gentleman??!!
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Mon, 10-24-2011 - 11:27pm

I had a wonderful time this weekend!!

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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 1:21pm
Well when in a relationship where you don't feel appreciated it makes perfect sense that you'd enjoy the attention of a gentleman who treats you nicely. Although if you plan to stay with your bf it wouldn't be right for you to keep talking to the chef. But if things fizzled with your bf I'd see nothing wrong with you giving the chef a chance.
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Thu, 10-27-2011 - 3:05am
Hello, ladybookworm!!

I feel that I connected with him because he was mature like me. Unlike my SO, it appeared to be a real nice and caring person (as far as chivalry). If things don't work out, I might would give him a try:)

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Thu, 10-27-2011 - 11:51am

Well I'm 28 so I don't consider 36 to be an older gentleman LOL but I get what you mean about maturity. Considering what you have written about your BF in the past... I would be STARVING for a mature man!

Just remember that first impressions are only first impressions. A guy who makes a great first impression may or may not live up to that standard as some time goes by. Still, he is more promising than your current dope-I MEAN BOYFRIEND whoops :)

Sounds like you are looking for a way out of a relationship that doesn't make you feel so great at all. I am sorry about how things are going for you. You deserve to feel special because you are!

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Mon, 10-31-2011 - 7:26am
Great to see you, undercovercrab!!!!

Lol, maturity would be nice!! I was thinking the same thing about the first impression. Even though I felt real special then, it could be a whole different ball game down the line. Thanks so much for your encouragement. It means a lot. You have been on this trail with me. Hopefully, one day you will get to see me post about one that makes me truly happy:)

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Mon, 10-31-2011 - 9:10am
Did you tell your SO about it? I'm curious if that might be motivation for him to step it up a bit.

On another note, I think it's great you decided to go out without him! Did you wind up seeing a movie too?

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Tue, 11-01-2011 - 12:18am
Hello, cmjeans!!! Nice to have you stop by!!!

I told him about the incident and he was nice to me for maybe two days afterwards. However, he still is in the "hang around my boys" mentality and I really can't deal with it. He likes to joke a lot and that's not me.

My original plan was to go to a movie with him but he made up an excuse not to go. I still plan on going to see the movie though!! I will definitely go out more myself:)

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Sat, 11-12-2011 - 2:39pm
I read your post above too about no longer being too. I'm glad you are so happy and free now!! I had to respond to this post though seeing as my DH always, always walks in front of me really fast too even when I tell him to walk beside me or God forbid try to hold hands with him while out. I too recently went out to a nice outdoor restaurant alone for lunch one afternoon and I too really enjoyed myself. It was peaceful and I enjoyed just taking in the scenery and good food... there was no need to have a conversation or listen to him talk about himself constantly. Anyway, you made the right move. Have you heard from the chef?