Boyfriend moved in with female roommate
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|Thu, 07-15-2010 - 2:00am|
My 24 year old boyfriend of 4 years recently moved in with his friend Bobby and his sister Jennifer. Bobby is out of town till the end of the month, so it's just my boyfriend and Jennifer living there.
I am so uneasy with him living there. A year ago my boyfriend cheated on me, hid that he was cheating until I found intimate text messages. We broke up and got back together 4 months later.
So you can see why I am so threatened with him living there. When my boyfriend was a freshman in high school he made out with Jennifer at a party. Apparently it was nothing, but now he is trying to start this close relationship with her.
He is overly friendly with her. Like on Sunday, when I was at work he took Jennifer out to lunch and paid for her. I was really upset about that. Then I come to his house and he is in only a towel talking to her. They barely even acknowledged me walking in there.
At that point I had it and just couldn't handle this extreme jealousy I felt. I told him I couldn't be with him anymore and that him living with a girl is just too much for me. He flipped out. Started yelling at me like a 13 year old and wouldn't stop. He told me I am fake and crazy. He kept telling me that he isn't gonna "f**k" Jennifer and that he hasn't "cheated on me YET".. That's great..
He gets so angry now, he bullies me into staying with him. I feel so guilty by the things he says, like I am his his best friend the closest thing to him, he loves me, I am his soul mate, etc. He begs me to stay. But at the same time treats me like crap. He even started raising his fist to me. I don't think he would ever hit me, but that was something he has never done before.
The weird thing is that he never offers for me to move in there, I even told him I would feel better if I lived there, but he doesn't want that. He wants his "own space".
I really want to end this relationship, but it's hard when you still love the person and your only friend lives 50 miles away and on vacation right now until Saturday. I am at a point where I don't know if I should stay or go. I know if I broke up with him and got back together a month later he would be the boyfriend I need. That's why it's so hard to stay broken up (we have broken up numerous times).
Help me! What is your advice? I have made a lot of other postings on this same issue if you want to read.