Friends not getting along with boyfriend

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Registered: 01-21-2004
Friends not getting along with boyfriend
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 5:14am

I've recently introduced my new boyfriend to one of my closest friend and her guy. I thought it went really well, but a few days later my friend told me that she was annoyed about some of my boyfriend's comments (something about making fun of her guy's sunglasses). I don't think my boyfriend has been rude, I didn't even notice anything during the whole dinner.

She says she wants to meet him again and not judge him on the first time she met him, however apparently her guy's really bothered and not sure he wants to see him again.

I don't know what to do about the whole situation. Should I talk to my boyfriend about it ? I honestly don't think he did anything wrong, but I also really want everybody to get along.

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Registered: 07-21-2007
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 9:21am

Wow that seems almost petty lol,all over sunglass comments.

Personally I would say something to my bf along the lines of "hey,so I guess when we were with jane and joe (fake names haha)the other day,you said some things about his sunglasses,and apparently he didn't like it.But I didin't hear anything I thought was rude"


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Registered: 05-18-2009
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 11:38am
I like pink1988's response. There's not much you can do because you didn't hear anything so you can't really make an educated judgment on the situation, but you can tell your boyfriend that she was put off by the comment. I guess if it were me I'd let it go entirely and give them all a do-over. The sunglasses thing seems kind of lame to get upset over.
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Registered: 05-15-2009
Mon, 08-16-2010 - 11:45am

I wonder if something else may have been said that you and your friend might have missed. Did they guys have a conversation that you didn't know about? To me, it sounds like it's much to do about nothing if a comment about sunglasses is the only reason for this.

I'd probably talk to your boyfriend about it. If he was making fun of your friend's boyfriend's sunglasses, then that's just not cool anyway. If they were friends and knew each other, then that's one thing, but for a person to criticize someone they just met is kind of rude. If this is someone who is going to be hanging around with you and your friends long term, then it's best to get to the bottom of it sooner rather than later.

Good luck!