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Registered: 01-11-2008
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Tue, 10-18-2011 - 5:34am
Hello everyone!!

How are you? Anything interesting happen this past weekend?

I got into an argument with my SO about him not answering the phone while he is around his friends. He even said, "I don't have to press the talk button if I don't want to!!" Clearly, this relationship is not going to be the ONE!!

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Registered: 06-03-2009
Tue, 10-18-2011 - 11:50am
Now wait a minute, there has to be more to this story. I'm sure there are plenty of times when we all are occupied (whether it be friends, family, etc) and we don't take calls during that time and that alone is hardly worth starting an argument over. Was he supposed to be meeting you or picking you up from somewhere? Or do his friends think he's single and he refuses to let them know you exist?
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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 9:33am

Is this the same guy you've been with for a few months at least?

He sounds like a jerk :( You are such an incredibly sweet person, and it is sad to see a beautiful personality with someone who doesn't deserve her.

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Registered: 01-11-2008
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:44pm
No, we weren't supposed to meet or anything. However, it's like he is ashamed to talk to me when he is around his friends. I didn't want to have a full conversation with him. I just wanted to check on him. Also, I told him he could have just sent me a text to say I'm ok. The only reason I said something is because this is not the first time this has happened...

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Registered: 01-11-2008
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 2:49pm
Awwwwww, thanks so much for the compliment!!! It is the same guy. Seem like I just can't catch a break in the love area. I feel that I try really hard. Maybe I should just step back for awhile and see how things progress...

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Registered: 11-07-2010
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 9:33pm
I'm not trying to be mean, and I hope this doesn't come out as harsh, but if you feel he isn't "the one" why do you stay? If you don't have a good answer, maybe you should move on?

As for the phone thing, I never want to be the girl who interrupts my boyfriend's "guy time". If he's out with the guys, it can be embarrassing for him to answer a call. We all know how guys are, they make fun of each other for boyfriend-behavior lol. If that's the situation, I'd let him off the hook, but if your guy constantly ignores you and doesn't make time for you, then the other poster is right...he is a jerk.
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Registered: 06-03-2009
Wed, 10-19-2011 - 10:18pm
This is kind of what I was getting at. If he's having guy time and you know that, then why do you need to check on him? Let him have his time to belch and fart or whatever it is guys need to do. You can catch up with him later.
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Thu, 10-20-2011 - 1:32am
The ironic thing is that I would NEVER call when he was our with the guys and he told me that I should at least call and check on him. Yet, when I did, he didn't answer. I understand how guys can be when they are hanging out. We all deserve our time away from the relationship.

We are works in progress and even though I have issues with him, it is nothing compared to my last relationship. I don"t want you all to think that I am one to moan and groan about petty things. I just feel that if you respect your friends you should respect your SO as well...

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Thu, 10-20-2011 - 12:57pm

Princess was the call an emergency?

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Thu, 10-20-2011 - 9:43pm
So he asked you to call him when he was out with his friends and then didn't answer. That seems ridiculous to me. If I were in your shoes I would simply not call him when he's out with his friends again (unless its an emergency) whether he told me to or not. This kind of sounds like a game he was playing or some stupid test.... like oh I'll tell her to call me to see if she'll do it. All that proves is he's being childish and his behavior got on your nerves hence the fight. Do not give in to the immaturity!
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