Grouchy Whiney & Grumpy

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Registered: 07-19-2006
Grouchy Whiney & Grumpy
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Wed, 06-23-2010 - 11:45am

No this is not the new dwarfs..... My boyfriend of

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Wed, 06-23-2010 - 1:36pm

Hey fellow kickboxer!!
Sounds like you're doing a lot with your life. Unfortunately a lot of people see the amount of money you make as the ONLY contribution you are making. That's not fair. There's so much more to life than money.

I agree with your assessment that a relationship can't be subjected to negativity all the time. If you feel you might be complaining too much, you are right. It's one thing to be yourself with your partner, but you also have to realize that he's a human being with his own issues and he's going to be affected by your emotional state. It's important to contribute positively to a relationship more often than not. I've also learned that one of the things a guy wants to hear about LEAST is drama with your girlfriends.

It sounds like you two are both going through troubled times individually, and that you need to learn how to deal with one another when things aren't easy. It's possible you will need to find someone else to vent to. It's also likely that you need to come to an agreement of "if we don't have anything nice to say right now, let's talk another time". Every couple is different when it comes to dealing with stress, whether they need more time apart or otherwise.

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Registered: 07-19-2006
Wed, 06-23-2010 - 5:59pm

Hey awesome that you kickbox too!