Is he interested?

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Registered: 11-18-2012
Is he interested?
Sun, 11-18-2012 - 3:05pm

Hello all! So here is my problem: I have a crush on this guy that I work with and I am not sure if he is interested in me or if he is just a nice guy plus we both moved to Seattle from the same area and raduate from the same college except he has been here only about 5 months while I have been here 2 years. When he asked me when I graduated and realized I started college a year after he graduated he replied by saying "We just missed each other." He doesn't interact with many in the office and is fairly quiet and yet he thouht I was reading in my car during lunch once and asked me what I was reading. Not to mention the I have caught him looking at me. I may sound like a high school girl analyzing every little detail and what not but I am not very good at these things lol. I don't want to embarrass myself so some insight would be great :-) Thanks, everyone!

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Registered: 07-05-2012
Mon, 11-19-2012 - 3:31pm


Have you considered "feeling" him out to see if there could be a relationship? Since he has only been there 5 months and you have been there for 2 yrs, how about offering to show him around Seattle and see where it goes from there?


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Registered: 06-03-2009
Fri, 11-23-2012 - 10:38pm
Well you know he likes to read since he asked you about the book you were reading at lunch. Are there any casual literary events coming up soon? Maybe a book signing? A meet the author kind of thing? You could always open a conversation with him about the types of things he likes to read and then casually mention a literary event that you're going to. Then just say he's welcome to join you. That way if it turns out that he's not romantically interested in you then you could just act like you're being friendly because he's new in town. If he is interested in you then meeting at the event could turn into grabbing a bite to eat or something after. By the way this same type of set up will work with art or music or food or nearly anything else that he might mention he's interested in that you can find an event for.
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Registered: 11-22-2012
Sat, 11-24-2012 - 11:16pm

I didn't scroll down to see if there were any replies, sorry. But have you thought of asking him out to lunch, or a get together after work?