He's ruining my birthday!

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Registered: 05-13-2008
He's ruining my birthday!
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 2:10pm

My birthday is this weekend and I was going to plan dinner and an outing with my boyfriend and all of my friends.

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Registered: 05-18-2009
Tue, 08-03-2010 - 2:37pm

My guess is that he already bought two tickets, and he either wouldn't be able to get a third ticket next to you two or is reluctant to pay for your friend as well. But he can't tell you this because it's supposed to be a surprise.

So both he and your friend planned things for Saturday. That doesn't mean either one is selfish. Maybe if he calls her, she can pay for her own ticket and join you. He should work that out with her. And if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. You'll still do something fun.

Just don't get pissy at your boyfriend over this, he's trying to do something nice for you, and you're turning it into "waaah he's ruining my birthday".

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Wed, 08-04-2010 - 4:46am

He's not being selfish at all, he's being incredibly thoughtful. Yeah, it's inconvenient that it's messed with your original plans but he can't change the date of the concert whereas you can change the date of the dinner. Even it if means having dinner the week after - I rarely ever go out with my friends for my birthday on my actual birthday. Sometimes, it's a good 2 weeks after my birthday for money reasons.

He just wanted to do something special for you and YOU are ruining THAT. If you carry on being so unappreciative, don't be surprised if he stops making an effort to do special things for you in the future.

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Registered: 05-20-2009
Sat, 08-07-2010 - 9:54am
Why would he get tickets for only the two of you if he knew you already made plans with your friends and him on Saturday? I think that was a wrong move on his part...he may mean well...but still. I don't know how your best friend is...but I know if I took off work to make plans with my friend...I would expect my friend to follow through with the plans. If not, then I consider that very rude.