I really need advice....

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Registered: 12-31-1969
I really need advice....
Thu, 09-13-2012 - 1:38am

I have been with my Fiance for a year as of today (9-12-12). We went out to dinner to celebrate. On our way home we stopped at the gas station. Keep in mind we have only stopped at this particular gas station one other time and there was a guy working. Well tonight some lady was working and she greeted my Fiance and asked him "Cope Straight?". She knew the exact chew he wanted before he even asked for it. Then she said "Are you on call tonight? I hope not. I hope you get a night to relax". He works in the oil field and is pretty much on call 24/7. When we left he said he felt completely mind-f***ed because he had no idea who she was. But now I have the feeling he cheated on me..... How would this woman know all this if he had never seen her before? Then we were laying in bed and he was texting, but he was kind of trying to hide his screen. I'm so hurt and confused right now. I don't know if I'm over reacting. Does this sound like an affair to anyone? I feel so lost.......

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Registered: 06-24-2010
Thu, 09-13-2012 - 10:19am

Wow.  To me, it sounds like he knew this girl.  Secretly texting is just icing on the cake.  I would think something was going on too!  Have you had a chance to sit down and talk to him about all of this?  Since you said he works in the oil fields, does this mean you're in a long-distance relationship?  You said that you've been with him for a year.  People tend to be on their best behaviors while dating for the first 6-12 months.  Maybe he's finally showing his true colors.  Does he have a history of cheating (if not on you, then on others)?