My boyfriend wouldn't let me buy him x-mas presents!

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Registered: 07-21-2007
My boyfriend wouldn't let me buy him x-mas presents!
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Thu, 12-29-2011 - 3:03pm

Hi,

I am 23 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years.This christmas however he didn't let me buy him anything.Litrally,not even a card.We pool our money, so my pay check is his and his is mine kinda thing.There is no my money your money. Well the money we had to buy presents with,including each other's presents, basically we both decided mutually what everyone was getting,then instead of me getting to spend any on him,he spent what was left,all on me.There was nothing left for me to buy him anything.And he deliberatly did this.He said I don't want anything for xmas,theres nothing I want or need because I already have everything.He said he just wanted to see a smile on my face and for me to be happy.So he went out and spent like $400 on me,we live in Whistler and I am a city girl so there aren't alot of stores here geared towards me other than the body shop, guess and le chateau. lol well he spent like $200 at the body shop, and the rest on fancy coffee (im a coffee feind) and chocolates and gift certificates for my favorite local coffee shop. I hated that he did this.It's completely unselfish in every way on his part but I felt almost guilty, because christmas morning I had about 8 gifts from him and he had nothing from me.He did have presents to open from our room mate and from his brother who is here visiting, who also brought presents from their parents.But I felt awful and even told him I don't want to open your presents to me since I have nothing for you.He just recieved his EI money which is almost $2000 even thought he's working full time now,there was almost a 2 month period he was laid off because of dead season (Whistler is a seasonal place for obvious reasons) and now that we have this extra money we don't really need and it is our money not just his I want to buy him

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Registered: 06-03-2009
I think what he did for you was incredibly sweet and says an awful lot about how he feels about you and your relationship. I'd say listen to him when he says he doesn't want you to buy him anything, but he didn't say you couldn't make him a wonderful dinner or bake him something.
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Registered: 07-21-2007

Thanks for your response (sorry if this is long,but what happened last night is exactly what I originally posted about),lol Actually I got a laugh when I read your cooking/baking comment,unfortunately my bf is a chef! He works at the fairmont chateau at one of the restaurants,he's an amazing cook and baker.Me? I have been known to burn microwavable kraft dinner.....we have baked together before but he guided me along.I've made him eggs and bacon and toast before,what I thought was a nice breakfast but the eggs still had that gooey,gelly stuff on them....he doesn't really eat what I cook since then unless it's stuff you can't screw up,lol However if he wasn't a chef and I wasn't unfortunate when it comes to cooking,yes, baking something for him or cooking him a nice meal would be an awesome idea lol

We went out last night around the village looking for a new winter coat and boots for myself,since I have no winter boots and