Hello Confident_resilient, I'm Karen, the host of the Crisis Center: Rape and Suicide.
My boyfriend is not a punk rocker.
I don't think he sounds like a respectful guy at all.
I'm sorry if I offended you in any way.
Thank you for your apology.
Wow, I thought only the ER could send police to your house in a case of alleged rape.
The situation was a horrible one that shouldn't have happened, but you really have to SPEAK UP when you don't agree with him...not just related to sex!
i had a similar experience with my ex. At the time I knew I said no and he shouldn't have done what he did, but I just kind of tossed it aside. We broke up, due to other reasons. Then about 2 years later while with my husband I had visions of my ex and it all came flooding back to me. It has been something I have had to work through ever since.
Now, I wish I took it more seriously back then. I really wish I would have accepted that yes, my boyfriend did rape me.
Only you are in charge of your body and you have to advicate for yourself. You can still like sex and be able to say no to parts that you are uncomfortable with. It doesn't make you a bad girlfriend to say no.
Speaking to a therapist might help you get through this situation a lot better now than have flashbacks later on.
good luck with everything that this brings to your life.