Subconciously Destroying a Good Relationship (Please Share)

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2008
Subconciously Destroying a Good Relationship (Please Share)
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Thu, 01-12-2012 - 4:10pm

Hi iVillage,

I turn to this board for emotional support.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-07-2000
I think the fact that you are aware that you have a problem is a big step in the right direction. Your BF sounds like a great guy, and I don't think you're going to be able to keep treating him like this and expect the relationship to last. Things come up, and it wasn't anyone's fault that his nephew got sick and needed a ride. At the time, did you feel like it was a personal attack on you that he was choosing to pick up his sick nephew instead of stick with the plans the two of you had? Was it something that ruined the plans or just pushed them back a bit?

If you haven't already, I think you should apologize to him. Does he know you're in therapy?

Maybe the next time you feel the need to lash out like that, you could find something else to do. Put the phone down so you're not tempted to text him and instead write all the horrible things you want to direct towards him in a journal. You can even write what you're feeling, and maybe that will help you understand the outbursts. Have you spoken to your therapist about this particular instance yet?
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-14-2008

I did apology to him for the nasty words.