What "Are" We? / He's Holding Back?
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|Mon, 08-02-2010 - 1:58am|
When is it appropriate to discuss where your relationship is going? I've been seeing this guy for approximately six weeks, and we have seen each other about once per week. So, we've been dating about a month. And I am very interested in him, but fear seeming too desperate.
This might be a whole other issue in itself, but if you want details......He's 26, I'm turning 21. This guy has taken me out on well-thought-out dates, he looks at me in a way that I have never felt a man look at me before (unless I'm imagining it), and he is very protective/chivalrous - i.e. holding me back if he sees a car but I don't. Most men I know do not do this. Also, from our first date, every single time we look into each others' eyes it feels EXPLOSIVE (from my point of view). I am a girl who usually dates quite a bit, but I have never felt this way about someone by the second date. Something about this feels *pure*.
Anyway, we haven't been doing anything beyond kissing (every time we are together, we kiss passionately for nearly four hours..the dates are usually 4-6 hours long). On the second date, we ended up back at his place and had sex for about 30 seconds and stopped. Third date, went back at his place but he couldn't......keep it up, for lack of a graceful term. He told me this was because, in his experience, relationships can "burn out" if they move too quickly. This is totally true, and I agree, but I want to jump the guy. I am SO into him, but I know I can't push him.
Now I'm left wondering how he sees me. Does he see me as girlfriend material? How do I ask him in a respectful manner if he sees our relationship going anywhere? And how do I let him know that I want more in the future with him, that I actually want him to be in my future? Is it too soon? I've already blurted out that I really like him (uh, duh, as if he couldn't figure that one out.....)- but should I say anything else?
Thank you, thank you, thank you!