At what point are you too incompatible and it's time to throw in the towel?
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|Thu, 03-24-2011 - 1:45am|
For the past 1.5 years I've been head over heels over my guy friend. We chat a lot and we confide a lot of things in each other. I have allowed myself to fall in the friend zone, for sure. Just today we were chatting about all the girls he's had sex with, showing me pics and everything. His number of sex partners shocked me, which led to a discussion (not the first of its kind between us) about our views about promiscuity. We have conflicting views on the matter. I try to make him understand, and accept, my reasoning for my "prude-ness" if you will, but he doesn't seem to care and just calls me judgmental and tells me to get off my high horse. He also tells me I live in a bubble, which I guess he is right about. But I think his perception of me is overly harsh and I guess deep down I am hurt that he doesn't appreciate the way that I am. He is going on a date this weekend with one of his past sex partners, and she's gorgeous and whatever. I've been there for him the entire time and he has never asked me out. He's just not that into me, right? He obviously prefers beauty over morality, it seems. Should I just throw in the towel and lose all hope of something ever happening between us? Should I even WANT to be someone who doesn't accept me and appreciate me the way I am, however "prude" I may be (despite my other good qualities). I've tried many times to distance myself from him as a friend, and it hasn't worked. We always end up talking again (I should mention that he's the one who talks to me 9.5 times out of 10). I realize he treats me like his buddy and seems to have no sexual/romantic interest in me. Question is .... how in the world do I move on? And is there something psychologically wrong with me for trying to make him like me? I've acted like myself with him, because I want him to like me for me, if he ever does like me at all. It seems I am not good enough. Advice?
Note: We are both in our 20s; I'm in my early 20s, he's in his mid-twenties.