Offended? Sorry if you have been...

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Offended? Sorry if you have been...
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Sat, 11-08-2003 - 3:57pm

It has just come to my attention that some members of this board consider my posts to be rude and the think I come across as if I know it all. I wanted to apologize to anyone who has been offended by my posts. That is not at all what I have ever meant. When I suggest something, I'm just trying to be helpful. If it is not helpful to you, then ignore my suggestion. I certainly don't live in anyone else's body or anyone else's lifestyle, and I can't speak for anyone else.


I sometimes post tongue-in-cheek (like about California cheese) and I thought the LOL emoticon I used at the top made that clear...maybe not. I also post a lot of 2 cents posts, and again, I thought the 2 cents emoticon made that clear.


I do agree that this board needs more than one cl-. I applied, but was ignored (maybe the CM's thought I came across as a know-it-all, too, I don't know. I do feel strongly, though, that this is too busy of a borad for one cl-, and that others could also help out. If you are interested, I do encourage you to apply to ivillage--and I certainly am only saying this to be helpful. There are definitely some members that I think would make great cl-s for this board.


 

Catherine


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Sun, 11-09-2003 - 11:57am

For just pure facts, the book is the best reference. Why not just refer to that?


The tool was posted in response to several people's questions about Net Carbs. Should they have just been ignored? As you progress further into the phases and there are many more options, you'll see this is a useful tool.


Well, I've made my point, which was in response to Catherine's original post, that we should be able to discuss and express facts and various opinions without people taking offense or getting defensive, and I support her as a potential CL.


'Nuff said.

Rhonda


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Registered: 08-08-2003
Sun, 11-09-2003 - 12:22pm

For just pure facts, the book is the best reference. Why not just refer to that?


I do, I most definitely do.

Maggie  

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Sun, 11-09-2003 - 12:47pm

The original post in this thread referred to people being offended, which is what I was responding to.


There is a Phase I folder for newbies. The General Discussion Folder should be for, well how about general discussion, for

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 11-09-2003 - 1:53pm
Catherine --- in response to your apology --- I don't think that you have any reason to.

You are a great poster here and I find your posts to be full of great, simple explanations

unlike a lot of mine due to the fact that sometimes I get too technical (being a nursing student) plus I have a hard time explaining things.

I cannot understand why Ivillage would igrnore you as a possible CL. This board definitely needs additional ones. A couple of weeks ago I had thought about applying and even e-mailed the actual cl here to make sure that no one would be made if I applied and I received no response back. However, I am just too busy to be able to give everyone here the attention that they deserve when they have a question or something.

I admit--- I have tweaked the plan to fit my own needs and food preferences, however, when I do answer a question --- I always try to remember to state the SBD book fact and then my own doings as my own not necessarily SBD's.

Give it another shot at trying to become a CL

Ellen

 

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Sun, 11-09-2003 - 2:38pm

I've often wondered about that "Let's Calm Down" emoticon and how often it was used. I used to post often to one of the debate boards, and we did tend to need it there (I'm inclined to believe that it was because only opinionated and direct people would be inclined to post to such a board. The only reason I don't post there now is because I'm too busy to post to too many busy boards, and I really like this one.). However, I think the "Let's Calm Down" emoticon is appropriate here right now.


Really, let's not start arguing about who is an SBD purist and who is not. I usually do try to give answers that

 

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Sun, 11-09-2003 - 6:04pm

If you are emailing people on this board about other people's posts, please stop!!!! You are asking someone who has never personally met someone else to judge the other party based on what they've seen on this board!!!!! To me, that is ludicrous!!!!!


I think people should never hesitate to email the cl on board if anything makes them uncomfortable.

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Sun, 11-09-2003 - 6:18pm

You're right about emailing the cl- off the board if you feel uncomfortable with a post. I was thinking in terms of members emailing each other. The human and the cl- in me both thank you, Susan, for clarifying that very important iVillage policy.


 

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Sun, 11-09-2003 - 7:27pm
How do you get those cool animated cartoons in your post?

Rhonda


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       ~~Rhonda~~


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Registered: 09-02-2003
Sun, 11-09-2003 - 8:18pm
Catherine typed:

***If you are emailing people on this board about other people's posts, please stop!!!! You are asking someone who has never personally met someone else to judge the other party based on what they've seen on this board!!!!! To me, that is ludicrous!!!!!***

Ria responds:

Emailing others through their personal email usually squashes disputes that really shouldn't be brought to the board. I personally find some of your posts are a little on the boarderline agressive side, but that is how you type and that is who you are as you have stated. Some may find my posts the same or indifferent. My way is to contact the person, let them know what's going on, and I go from there. As I stated in the email to you (yes, everyone, I emailed Catherine to let her know that some were "put-off" by her posts just to let her know. I wasn't starting trouble, but I see that trying to squash something through email wasn't working because it caused a huge uproar on the board due to an apology post here), there were other members who felt the same way who contacted me through email to ask what were my intentions by a certain post and how you reacted. The main objection to the ones who emailed me are in the Chick-fil-A post. Some emailed before this time asking about clarification of another post or to tell me they agreed with what I was saying. It's all good though.

Emailing members to squash things seems like the most logical thing to do. There are sensitive people on here who take things to heart. Me, I don't know you guys from anyone else. What is said on this board doesn't upset me, but some posts make me wonder "What were they thinking when they phrased THAT!?" It's natural. I have to remember there is an ignore button, and we can use it or not. I also always remember we are all committed to following a WOE that we enjoy, and we use our experience and the knowledge to move through the WOE and stay healthy and strong. We all have a common goal. If getting along all the time on this board were directly related to our weight loss and health... well, that would be a different story. :) Different styles and wording for different people.

Now, let's get back to the eating. Shall we? To follow suit with another phrase tonight... 'nuf said. ;)

Ria

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Sun, 11-09-2003 - 8:19pm
Well then it's up to those people to do more research just like I did to make this work for them. This should not be their only form of information. I'm not going to be held responsible for someone's confusion. If I'm confused, I read the book or search the web. Boards are for gathering extra info and personal experiences. More the latter in my opinion. If counting carbs works for them, let them do it. If counting calories works for them, let them do it. I've never done Atkins but I've done extensive research on the diet and it IS very similar. I'm not going to be chased off this board because I post ideas other than by the book South Beach. You don't have to be strict to get results. If someone is confused or unsure of where we path strayers are coming from, they are more than welcome to ask us to clarify through a post or a personal e-mail. Let them make up their own mind.

Alison