Feeling VERY Discouraged (sigh)

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Feeling VERY Discouraged (sigh)
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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 10:00am
Having been on Phase II for probably about 6 weeks ("cheating" here and there, and I use that loosely, because I would always make adjustments with other meals)And even though some people tell me I look thinner and yes, I even feel better, my clothes aren't shriking as fast as I want.

And yes that goes against all the beliefs I have about the slow process of this WOE but you know what, today I am just plain FRUSTRATED! When I started this, I really didn't do the phase I because I had been following Atkins, and to be brutally honest, I dont have the cravings and I haven't for a long time. I dont have the same tastes for bagels, pastas, etc. If I have to admit a weakness, it would be sweets, but there are so many "healthy" options now. Im a huge fan of riccotta cremes, and as you guys now know, I LOVE that Carbsmart Ice Cream.

So whats wrong with me? The carbs I have added back in my diet? Two slices of pumpernickel bread at a meal?.... the beans in the chili I make with ground turkey and some lean ground beef? The vanilla vodka with club soda I may have on the weekend? (And that may be two drinks max! and only one night out of two) Is it the occasional one glass of red wine during the work week?

I cant say how much weight I have lost or haven't in the last few weeks because I refuse the scale. Call me crazy, but its my thing. I cant get on there because I'll be on there every day and I cant do that to myself. I'd go nuts. So today in place of the scale I took some measurements.. watch me measure every day! lol

Working out? I use the medicine ball and I am getting slowly in the routine of rowing on an ergometer. I average at least three times a week. Its a hard workout. I do intervals. So im pulling my brains out. LOL I actually should take my frustrations out on that machine huh?

Well I think im finished venting now. I dont have the urge to give up and start eating differently.. or grab a big fat sundae. To be honest, it doesn't appeal to me. So whats my problem? Is it just one of those stalls thats just waiting it out? OH one thing I haven't mentioned. I am NOT doing well in the water department. Not because I dont like it, but because if I forget my water bottle for work, the water at my work is undrinkable.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH sorry I had to be done. And I am quite grouchy today.. LOL. Maybe this is all because I put this dress on last night and HATED the way I looked. I dont know.

Thanks for reading. Hopefully I'll be my usual chipper self later on today.

Gretchen

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Registered: 09-10-2003
Mon, 11-10-2003 - 10:29am
Hi Gretchen,

I'm sorry you're feeling so frustrated. Honestly, it sounds like you might be overdoing it with the carbs. I never have two slices of bread at one sitting, and don't forget that alcohol acts like carbs in that it spikes your blood sugar. I know that you don't want to get on the scale, but maybe if you did that, along with changing the amount and combinations of carbs, you would get a better idea of what would work for you. Also, you did mention that people are noticing that you are smaller. Is it possible that you want it all unrealistically fast? I know I'm very much an instant gratification type of person. I've lost nearly 30 pounds since Aug 28, and though I'm pleased with how I feel, and the changes in my body, in some ways I'm also *more* dissatisfied with my body. That may seem very weird, but I think it is because now I'm more focused on my body size, whereas before, I used to deny it. Before, I'd get a shocked feeling when I caught a glimpse of my reflection in a window, or a glass door, etc. It was like I was continually surprised at how fat I was. Granted, at my all-time high of 242 I was about 100 pounds overweight, so maybe none of this applies to you. But I do think there could be something about the self-focus that goes on when you do get going in losing weight.

Anyway, I wanted to give you a hug... (((((((Gretchen)))))))

Keep with it, drink some more water, mix it up a bit, and maybe you'll find out what is stalling you, or even if you are actually stalling.

Hugs,

Jill K.

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 10:56am
Sorry your progress is so slow. I would re-assess your WOE. Perhaps you can not have two breads in one sitting. Perhaps you should switch, once and a while, perhaps alternating between the vodka and a glass of wine.

I know that not only do I have to watch my carcs, but also my calorie intake. I am not sure what your stats are, how much you need to lose, etc., but I am a little person. I am 5'4" and can not eat as much as someone even two inches taller than I can. I started SBD at 120 and none of my pants were comfortable. I lost 5 punds the first week and another the second and another last week, the third. I stuck to Phase 1 religiously with the exception of adding a piece of fruit to my diet. I have not had any pasta in a month, and just the other day I had a piece of low carb bread (yuck!) and made myself an open faced sandwich.

I usually have a yogurt for breakfast, fruit as a snack and or some popcorn. For lunch I still like my roll-ups or tuna salad or even soup. I also like sugar free Jello and I make sugar free pudding with skim milk as an evening treat. I will have some whole grain crackers on occasion but really make sure that I stick to the serving size or I have cheese or nuts or something. For dinner I let loose. Anything goes. We'll have chicken or fish or steak or ham. And I serve a ton of vegetables so that we fill up on veggies. Or we'll have chef salads, or Greek salads or Salade Nicoise. But no rice or pasta or potatoes. And with all the veggies, I don't feel like I need a starch.

Have you made the cauliflower mashed potatoes? We'll you can puree any veggie and it tastes great. We love broccoli puree in this house (My 2 y.o calls it broken broccoli!) and it is divine! I am going to puree some butternut squash.

Don't give up. Just try modifying your food intake to your special needs. THat's just what Dr. A says to do in his book. People react differently to different kids of foods. Good luck!

Jessica

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 11:10am

We love broccoli puree in this house (My 2 y.o calls it broken broccoli!) and it is divine!


Broken broccoli....how adorable.

Maggie  

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 11:16am

Gretchen, I can't really help with your question on a personal level

Maggie  

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 11:45am
Ok so I think I made myself out to be an alcoholic! LOL. Seriously looking at my post and some response LOL

Anyway, adding back in carbs slowly... ok. So the consensus is that its having two slices of pumpernickel bread is it? Well this morning I had them with lowfat ham and lowfat cheese. That could very well be it. But heres my argument (well not really an argument), call me the devils advocate so to speak. I thought we are supposed to add these good carbs in gradually. No real "limit" on the carbs. And if thats the case, the choices of pumpernickel bread at a meal, or beans in the chili, would make or break it? I am just trying to really get the true understanding. Apparently for me? its not doing either. Its just leaving me in a rut.

Maybe for now I should stick with the open face sandwich if I chose one? Omelettes and Eggs, etc are just getting old! I like to liven it up. Hence the grilled lowfat sandwich.

I'll have to report my findings! :-) Thanks for the advices and the helpful tips. Although I do have to tell you all, from what I have learned from "dieting", I cant be deprived. Last night, I enjoyed a glass of wine. Will I have one every night this week? Nope. Because I like that ice cream too much! HA HA HA... HEY ITS ALL ABOUT COMPROMISE! I found the answer.. HE HE HE. To me its the key to this whole WOE. I never feel deprived. I just may have to make some minor cuts until Im a little closer to my goal.

Oh and more about my weight loss goals? Im 5'7, I have no idea what I weigh, Im most likely around 210. Remember the term big boned? LOL well Im the model for it! To look at me no one would ever guess I would weigh that much. I inherited my fathers muscular genes; large muscles, shoulders, back etc. So my mothers "fat" genes lay right on top! LOL OH what a rough life! Just kidding.

Ok.. so my day is getting better... and you know Im not even PMS'ing! LOL

byeeeeeeeeeeeee

Gretchen

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Registered: 10-08-2003
Mon, 11-10-2003 - 2:27pm
I research and talking to others low carbing it, i've found if you've stalled, it might be beneficial to ADD carbs. You might not be getting enough. Beans were okay in phase 1 since they are packed with fiber and have a GI lower than 55. If you can, adding some more cardio to your ball strengthing would help a tremendous amount. You can personally e-mail me if you want to to see if we can get down to the nitty gritty of your meals. I'm not a nutritionist but I've done a lot of research on this topic and might be of some help. I just don't want to "confuse" anyone.

runnermom79@yahoo.com

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Mon, 11-10-2003 - 11:06pm

OHHH! See? this was one of my suggestions to the cl-. Maybe the first thing new people need to see is the "Intros" section...move it to the top, then "General Discussion"?


A few other ideas: Get rid of the Phase 3 section (OK, I see the good in the Phase 1 and 2 sections, but do we really need a Phase 3 section?), and replace it with a "Stalled...Help!" section? Change the "What's new..."section to "Exercise," since that's how we seem to be using it, anyway?


Thoughts, anyone?


 

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