how to quit if spouse drinks too
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|Thu, 08-30-2007 - 5:39am|
I am a 38 year old alcoholic, and my dh is 49 alcoholic. We are together for 12 years, married 8 with 4 young children.
Dh has always been an alcohlic. I knew when I married him he was one, yet I too was drinking back then and pretty much that was how we have always known each othter. I didn't realise I was an alcolic until recently. He is in denial, but a very much alcohlic.
I would like to quit. It's funny how when you are pregnant you have the power to quit, so why is it so hard when you are not?
How do I quit when dh still drinks? He is not a violent drinker, not a party'er, not a mean drunk. He is a come home from work and have his drink while he grills, and after supper. He doesn't ever even look drunk. In fact, nobody would even guess he's had too much ever, except me, who knows him well. (And his mother).
I like to have a glass of wine or beer while we chat cooking supper too. I can stop, but then right before bed I like to relax with another beer or two while watching t.v.. Sometimes even three.
I have told him not to bring beer home, but he likes it too. I don't drink his other wine because it is awful. If the beer wasn't there, I could do it. I know I could.
I cannot go to AA. I know you will suggest that. I live far out in country and have noone to watch my kids. (Even dh, as you can see why).
Where do I start. I'll take and listen to any advice you give. Today is the day I will change for the better.
Thanks in advance,