How do I know if H isn't drinking
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|Thu, 08-30-2007 - 10:52pm|
Long story short, my H started drinking at a young age...used to be able to handle a lot and about 2 years ago, he had few episodes where he drank until he had no clue what he was doing and no recolection of it the next day. He is military, he had an affair his last deployments and swears up and down had he been sober it would have never happened. He is once again deployed...I decided to give him a second chance on our marriage. He talk with someone while he could before he left, but he doesn't really believe he has an issue. He asked me what I needed him to do to save our marriage, I told him if he couldn't stop at 2 drinks...dont' drink at all. He's account hasn't really shown excess charges, which is what tipped me off last time that he was just drunk the whole time he was gone. Tonight however I check our account and he's spent more in one day than usual this time, I haven't heard from him in about 24 hours, I'm sick and I know that normally he would called by now....so my first thought is that he got himself drunk. I don't know what to do I have no way to contact him and have to just wait, so I've been crying for hours now...because I have this gut feeling that I'm right and he got sloppy drunk again...and another part of me feeling bad for doubting him. I love him and I want our marriage to work, but I can't live like this anymore and don't know how to tell him that. He either has to admit he has a drinking problem and get help for it...or he'll likely lose me and our kids in the end. I don't want to leave him when he needs support the most, but how much can I take. I'm going through health issues right now and I've been raising our 2 small children by myeslf for almost 2 years now....due to deployments and his choice of separating after his affair.
I feel like I'm driving myself crazy.