Hello, I'm Lisa, 44 from NY. I am divorced with 4 boys.
My first instinct is to tell you to run like mad in the opposite direction - that would be my honest "advice".
Hi there, my ex-husband had GP surgery and about 4 years later was so addicted to alcohol that he could not stop drinking without entering medically assisted detox. This happened over 15 times in less than two years.
I am glad that you are getting cold feet about marriage. Think of yourself and your boys. They need a sober influence in their lives.