I just found you thanks to a friend.

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Registered: 03-30-2005
I just found you thanks to a friend.
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 8:05pm

And I want to introduce myself...

My dh is recovering and is 45 days sober from alcohol. There were a few things that happened in our marriage that were nearly the end for me (it involved police and abuse, and my children as well), but I stuck it out. I am not looking for a medal...rather I am looking for even more ways in which I can help him. I put a lot of stock in "for better or worse" and then, it was worse...it is getting better.

He is doing 90 in 90 at AA and has a sponsor who he meets with weekly to do step work. He is on Antabuse to stop the drinking, and working with 2 shrinks to figure out the why's and triggers. His job has made it difficult for him to do a 90 day, or any number of day, in patient thing, but so far, this plan or path he's on seems to be useful, helpful, and working.

I have 2 toddlers and do not have the ability to attend Alanon meetings while he is out nightly (thankfully) at AA meetings. We live away from family, and don't have sitters readily available for me. I am seeing someone regularly though, but not a recovery specialist per se.

Any advice you have for me, I will gladly read. I am happily supportive of anything he says he needs to do in order to stay sober and he knows that.

Thanks to my friend, if you're lurking, for sharing this site with me, and thanks to you all for any advice.

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Registered: 10-01-2003
Mon, 09-15-2008 - 9:47pm

Hi and welcome to the board.

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Registered: 03-01-2008
Wed, 09-17-2008 - 11:36am


I read here a lot and the advice is just invaluable.






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Wed, 09-17-2008 - 2:51pm