Was it just me or were they out of line?
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|Fri, 10-03-2008 - 6:24pm|
First let me say, I'm really happy I found this board. I had major frustration yesterday and ended up venting it on a Weight Watchers board I belong to. Big mistake in my opinion but I guess I'm trying to figure out if I was being way to sensitive or if other posters were over the line.
The gist of it was that I've been bothered by DH's excessive drinking and late nights more and more lately. Wednesday night DH was drinking and had said he would go to bed with me at 3am (I work second shift but had time off this week) and when the time came he said no, he was going to be up at least another 2 hours. I should mention here because I didn't before that DH has had chronic insomnia since he was a teen. I was upset and he was trying to make it up to me by saying he'd clean the computer desk which was his mess anyway. His idea of cleaning ended up being sweeping everything into the trash, including my bankbook, one of my x-ray markers, and my spare iPod cord. So I was upset about the night before but finding those things in the trash REALLY got me steamed. My computer was the nearest outlet so I posted to get it off my chest.
There were a few immediate responses of support, including one woman who's been married to an alcoholic for 30+ years and offered her email address for a private conversation. It quickly went down hill from there. The rest were people saying how many red flags the saw and to get out or get help. Then the get help got dropped all together and somehow a number of things were inferred by my phrase "excessive drinking", including DH couldn't hold a job, was belligerent, was probably up all night doing coke, AND surfing for porn online. ?!? When I responded saying that none of those things were true and DH really IS good person, somehow I was backpedaling.
Was it just me or was the board out of line? Don't get me wrong, I know that the way things are now is not good but there are a lot of good things about my 5 year marriage that I'm not willing to throw away at this point.