No clue what to do... again!
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|Fri, 01-16-2009 - 12:36pm|
I wrote in this forum a couple weeks ago about struggling with a friend who is an alcoholic. In short, I have not spoken to this friend in months since I told her that she needed to get serious help for her problem. I stopped contact with her because she continued her very destructive behavior. I had been thinking about writing her a letter.
I just found out from a mutual friend that this girl got drunk over the weekend and asked someone to take her to rehab. This seems to me like just another one of her ploys for attention which happens often when she is drunk. She becomes the "victim" of something and is (almost like a 2 year old throwing a tantrum) impossible to ignore. Apparently someone did take her -but when they got there she was too drunk to be admitted. apparently your bac can't be above .08 AND they said it was so high the rehab center said it would take her 12 hours to get down to the approved level. 12 hours! I haven't heard much except that she plans to enter rehab in a few days. While I want to be happy for her and support this move, my instinct tells me that she won't take it seriously. I also worry that this friendship has become too toxic and may not be worth persuing even once she is out of rehab. But thinking these things makes me feel like a bad friend. I do not know what to do at this point. I don't know if I should go visit her or even what I should say or do while she's there and once she gets out. Even though this is a potentially good step in the right direction for her, I can't help resent her for all the destruction. I am at the point where I don't even want to talk to her now or after she gets help. I don't think our friendship will ever be the same and for some reason I feel guilty about this. Am I being an insensitive friend? What should I do?
Thanks in advance for your thoughts and advice!