Just starting dating a recovering addict

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Just starting dating a recovering addict
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Sat, 01-31-2009 - 2:43pm

I have just met somebody and he is a recovering alcoholic and addict... He has been very open with me about his past and I have no problem with it..


He has stated to me that he has never been in a relationship sober... with that comes my question...


He is not very affectionate. He has admitted that. In the times we are physical

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Registered: 12-29-2008
Sat, 01-31-2009 - 9:35pm
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Registered: 06-30-2002
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 12:41am

Do you want the truth or a sugar coating?


 


"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."


&nbs

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2003
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 5:04am
I am divorced.. I didnt realize it said is still said married.. will have to change that..
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Registered: 09-11-2004
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 6:43am

Hello


I am a recovering alcoholic, and love just holding hands or snuggling. I guess I am also 'touchy-feely.'


I don't know if it is a trait or not. I do think that if outward physical affection is important to you, and this person said he is not, well then he isn't the person for you. Don't bank on him changing.


Welcome to the board!

Bye Cookie
Cookie 12/1994-1/2009


Beth


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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 2:57pm

Hi there and welcome!

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 3:46pm

well I am just starting to get to know him but i believe he is clean and sober 15 mos. and yes i have asked him if he attends meetings and he said not all the time..


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-24-2006
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 5:37pm

Hi Harley,


I doubt you'd remember me... we last "talked" while you were still married.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2003
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 5:44pm
I amsorry I don't remember you. Was it on the D.V Board?
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 5:48pm

The reason I asked about how long he had been clean was that in relative terms, he is still kind of "newbie" to recovery.

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Sun, 02-01-2009 - 6:04pm

Thank You..


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