Didn't cause no trouble
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|Mon, 03-02-2009 - 1:22pm|
My bf made a comment the other night about his drinking. He usually just drinks beer but a couple of weeks ago he bought a bottle of bourbon and drank half of it Friday night and the other half Saturday night. He made the comment "but I didn't cause no trouble". I didn't know what to say--I didn't say anything. No, he didn't cause any trouble, if trouble is defined as fighting or the police coming or something of that nature. Is my being uncomfortable with the fact that he drinks every night, whether it's several beers or bourbon drinks or shots of tequila, and then won't eat dinner, and maybe passes out on me in the bedroom not defined as trouble? I guess he thinks all is well as long as there is no "trouble"?
I have a friend who is chronically one to three hours late for social or family gatherings. He is very critical of this behavior and of course, she is critical of his heavy drinking. He was talking about her the other night and I said "her thing is being late all the time like your thing is drinking every day. I don't like either one of these things but I can't do anything about it. I can't fix her and I can't fix you--I can only fix myself". He was a bit more humble after that. But he still drank.