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|Sun, 03-29-2009 - 11:50am|
It's been several weeks since I ended my relationship with an active alcoholic. I am moving on with my life, spending time with old friends and meeting new ones. I'm not seeking a relationship at this time as I'm not ready for that but I am casually dating. The men I see are aware of my feelings on this and have been wonderful so far.
My ex still calls and sends messages. About a week ago we actually had a nice conversation, talking about work, kids, and life stuff, nothing too intense. I hung up the phone feeling pretty good, thinking maybe someday we can be friends. Last night he called and was obviously well into the alcohol. I feel so sorry for him, he is so depressed. I know the alcohol makes it worse but that's not something he is ready to recognize yet. I guess the one thing calls like that do for me is reinforce my belief that I did the right thing in ending the relationship. He did ask last night if we were over forever and was there a chance I could come back into his life. I was able to say without hesitation that it is over and I can't live the life he would want me too. It felt good to be able to say that, not with anger or bitterness, just with resolution.
I just wish there were some way he could be convinced to seek help and to get out of his private little pity party. Not for my sake, no matter what he does at this point I will not return to the relationship but for his own. I hate to see people hurting like that.